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This may come down to having to do what is best for your own sanity.
The truth is that you are managing Dad pretty well as is. But I don't know what sort of toll that's taking on you.
Good luck.
so I felt I just had set set a countdown/ timeline , and let him know that .
and also that he just has to go to see a geriatric psychiatrist. No choice in the matter (well if he doesn’t agree, then I stop visiting completely until he agrees….)
My mother with dementia would never agree to anything to help her mood as she felt the victim and had every right to be unhappy and angry over being placed . She just had to be miserable on her own terms until she finally accepted her situation to a degree . She finally came to terms with her decline being the reason she was in AL about 3 months before she died when she was aware she was struggling more with mobility .
My DH used to tell me “ Your mother doesn’t want to be happy”. He was right , my mother would rather complain about her “ rotten kids “ and seek sympathy .
You cannot REASON with someone with dementia. You cannot convince someone with a broken brain to see things in a different way.
Acceptance of that fact is the only way you will have peace.
That, and getting up and leaving when he becomes nasty, argumentative or agitated.
No audience, no show.
I am sure that you feel like a broken record at times, having to repeat things over several times.
Well, since you say that your dad finally heard you, and you have given him a deadline, sounds like you have a good plan!
I hope that he will follow through with all that he agreed to.
Wishing you all the best.
It's been just about 2 months that I laid down the law with my family and mother. I'm starting to see signs that things are starting to go back wards. I'm just waiting to see.
Best of luck to you!
I hope dad improves his rotten attitude some with help from the psychiatrist. That's the goal here.....to get him the help he needs and have him step out of his OWN WAY.
Cheering you on from Denver! 😊
Your countdown is sort of blowing what was.. UNinfesting your brain.. more like Letting Go.
Actually, just by starting the clock, maybe you feel lighter already?
Whether you drop the POA in 60 days or not, it is a powerful feeling to know you CAN, at any future time, do just that.
If this actually happens I would resign POA before dad is moved out of the AL and wash your hands of dad and the whole thing entirely. Tell this meddler that they will need to be responsible for dads care 100% and will be liable if dad is living in an unsafe environment for elder abuse and neglect, etc.
I don't have an answer to your question though.