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Each team had a social worker. In my experience they were worth their weight in gold. I learned so much from the social worker.
In the meantime, you might want to sign up for the VA e-letters, addressing a lot of topics affecting Veterans, as well as caregivers. Support for caregivers seems to have stepped up since we were involved.
Sign-up site for e-letters:
U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs (govdelivery.com)
For caregiver support info:
https://www.caregiver.va.gov/
I would start the search now for memory care. You need one that will take medicaid. I was fortunate, when I moved my mom from Arizona to here, I found one that waived the 1 year self pay (she had about 10 months ) and moves on to Medicaid. I used a placement specialist, she knows the area, availability, cost , needs, arranged tours etc … she’s paid by the AL.. by the way, I used an independent company called Carepatrol, maybe there is one in your area. Otherwise Google placement specialist , it will take a little digging. This person was invaluable to me…
Reach out to your county office for aged and disabilities. They may have recommendations and or guidance for you. They also would help you with the Medicaid process, and clarify the assets process. Your dads home could help pay for his care if he owns it.
contact your county office for veterans. Find out if your dad has benefits owed him. The county office is not the VA , but they can guide you and help you apply for benefits. It took a lot of work but my mom gets aide and attendance monthly $1200.
I wish you peace with all this.
Are you his assigned PoA? If not, and he is not legally competent to create one at this point, or he is unwilling, then you may have very little control over his care decisions without a diagnosis of cognitive impairment, as you are finding out. To get him to his neuro exam you may need to use a "therapeutic fib"... maybe tell him it is the required/prescribed follow-up from his ER visits, or any other story you think he'll buy. At the appointment, make sure to ask for the Medical Representative form (it's a HIPAA privacy form). Have your dad but your name as his MR. This will allow you to discuss your dad's health issues with his doctor without your dad needing to be present, and you can give his doctor actionable information.
Also at this appointment, discretegly give the staff a note outlining your concerns about his behavior and his living by himself, that you're his son but can't provide the care he needs. I did this with my MIL and the staff was very accommodating. They allowed me to sit in the room during her testing, positioned behind her so that if she answered questions about her symptoms or ADLs, I would shake my head yes or no so the doc got accurate answers. I wish you success in getting him to the appointment and for an accurate diagnosis and cooperative dad!
If VA cannot help enough he may need to apply for medicaid.