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Have a good night's rest, please! There's so much going on now that you'll need that change of pace to forge ahead.
I respect and admire your dedication in facing and working through such challenges. You must be a very special person!
1. Are you your aunt's sole caregiver, or are other family members involved? Is your aunt in a hospital now, or some type of facility?
2. Given that lives are finite, the perhaps impending recession, the potential for escalation of intra and inter country friction and the hopefully remote possibility of a third world war, I think it's wise for everyone to plan for unexpected or potential outcomes and changes.
3. If palliative and/or hospice care is needed, have you had a chance to research potential facilities? When I did, l learned that some with great reputations weren't that great on pre-choice negotiations. Some didn't want to provide specific answers; others wanted me to come out and see how great their facility was before I was even considering it.
Eventually I went with a Catholic owned and operated step-up care company, ranging from rehab to IL, AL, etc. They were very compassionate, respectful and even went out of their way to accommodate us.
4. What specialties of doctors are involved? Are they all "fudging" or avoiding direct responses? I would turn the issue around, and ask more general questions. Of the cardiologist, you might ask if her cardiac conditions now are indicative of a short remaining span of life, or how they factor into the whole picture. Same with the pulmonologist. Estimated times are relevant as well: weeks vs. months might be a starter.
You would probably get a range of answers, but it might help you focus on the more serious issues right now and in the short and long term future.
5. Have POA or better yet DPOA as well as Living Wills been executed? Are the appointees up to date on her condition, and ready to serve?
6. As to preparation for the end, you wrote that her will is in place. Are you the Personal Rep, or Testatrix (f/k/a Executrix)? If so, do you have the data you would need to manage and/or close out the Estate? If not, does the named PR or Testatrix have that data, or access to it?
7. Does she have assets, i.e., real property, stocks, bonds)? If so, and they haven't been inventoried or aggregated, you might want to ask her where to find all the data you would need to manage the Estate, such as recorded deed for real property, quarterly reports for stocks, and other data,so that the assets can be transferred properly.
8. What is the extent of her family, and how involved are they? Do you keep them updated so that they can be aware of the situation? (I used to e-mail family and friends whenever there were changes, or even when situations stabilized and improved.)
I know this is more than you asked for, but in fluid situations in which changes can be quick, it's easy to forget some important aspects.
Whomever is the POA needs to discuss all of this with the MD. If the MD will not discuss ask for a Palliative Care consult with an MD who will treat, but who recognizes that this is indeed a very very ill person. The Palliative Care MD will let you know when Hospice is appropriate; that may be now or in near future.
With someone of this weight I would think you are limited in time you can do this care on your own. Aunt sounds as though she requires SNF care at this time to me.
I sure am sorry and I wish you the best.
Only so much the heart can do.