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I think, until your sister is willing to put Mom in care there is little that you can do. She knows the choices. Continue in caring or stop.The family is killing themselves in enabling this situation by being there for her.
A poster recently told us that being a caregiver can kill you, and told us of her own illness and its costs. This isn't unusual.
I am so very very sorry. You simply cannot change the choices of other people. Constantly fighting her pushes her into her corner. Next time she tells you "I cannot do this anymore" tell her that when she is ready to consider change you will all call the family together to hash out what the options are. You must feel utterly helpless, but trust me, sinking 1,000s of dollars and escalating this situation is unlikely to help.
Give your sister a break, for heaven's sake. With all that on her plate can you seriously blame her for finding it hard to think straight?
So, your sister has stated that she can't do this any more. What would your sister like to happen next? Is anybody in touch with your mother's local social services, including but not limited to Area Agency on Aging or, if necessary, APS?
Unfortunately this family seem to have paddled their canoe up the creek. They are now calling out for help, but still paddling in the same direction. OP is not on the boat & cannot steer. In fact, they ignored all directions the OP gave.
The main caregiver sister will need to put down her oars. Get some sort of emergency respite care for Mother while she figures it out.
One temporary pathway I see is if Sister or Mother falls or is ill in any way, the other family members call EMS - instead of rushing over to pick up those oars.