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You are not alone. If your brothers & sisters are talking to you about this then they must be included in this. A family intervention, maybe, but if there are others, they have to step up too. Just because you are there they can't abdicate. It is a VERY hard decision to make and you don't need to do it alone. They have the same responsibility as you. I'm lucky, my sister died before Mom & Dad got bad, so the decision was mine entirely. Spread the wealth.
IMHO you should have mom do a DPOA, MPOA and guardianship in case of incapacity statement done- all allow for different aspects of her care to be done. All of these will have a primary person - which is you - and a secondary person - which ideally should be whomever approaches her care the same way you do and wants the responsibility. This should be done by an attorney who specializes in elder care law and who practices in the county where she lives or owns property. If you need her will to be done or a codicil added to update, they do that too.You might get a DNR done too - truly discuss this with mom - most hospitals upon admission make you do one for the patient and one will be in the stack of paperwork you sign.
Regarding her banking, you can get your name added onto her accounts as a signature and have the accounts POD. So that it shows her SS # as the owner. This does not need to be notarized. However, the bank should ask to see the DPOA and will scan it as an internal attachment to her accounts. Also I'd recommend just having 1 bank for all her accounts with direct deposit of her SS and retirement and on-line for you and whomever is the 2nd to have access to. This is really good if in the future the family gets all "you squandered mom's money" on you.
What you do NOT want to do is have any accounts co-mingled, what I mean by that is an account that you have your own $$ going into along with her SS check, annunity, retirement. If you need to apply for medicaid for her care - and I am in the camp that believes that if they live long enough they will need to go eventually into either LTC or SNF and will run out of $$ so will be applying for medicaid - if the money is co-mingled it is a real mess in her application. The money that is yours but in a shared account can be considered "her income" and can take her over the Medicaid monthly ceiling. All checks or transfers over $ 500 can be asked to be justified. (We were asked about 6 checks for $ 585 each, these were for her homeowners insurance. I had to go to the agent and get a letter done to clear this hurdle). So you need to keep everything legally separated. Remember the look-back is 5 years and lots can happen within that period of time.
If you are paying for things for mom's care - like her co-pay at the doctors office, or batteries for her hearing aid, or pay her property taxes, etc. you should keep track of it, if you ever want to be reinbursed. Now you might not need it now, but 1 or 2 unexpected medical situations can wipe out years of savings
for all of us and it's just good finances to consider that.
and to igloo572 comment I DON'T THINK the nurses or employees in her mother's physician office would like to be called GALS! Get as much information as you can and maybe friends can help out and if your mother is a vetern's spouse there is a lot of help within the VA. GOODLUCK!
If you can find someone who doesn't have an interest in the situation, like someone with your local council on aging or perhaps the social worker at whatever hospital she has been at. The gal's who run the office at your mom's physician might be a good resource for who to talk to. Believe me they probably know several counseleors or social workers whom patients interface with. It will be good to have someone more impartial or non-judgemental than family, neighbors or close friends can be,
Mom might need to be evaluated by a social worker before she gets accepted in a facility IF you go that route. So you just might be ahead if you do this.
Good luck.