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I'd turn off my phone if I were you, or the ringer at least. You can ask the CG to unplug moms phone, too, and see how it goes, but I'd ask for calming meds first and foremost.
Dementia is the worst, and I wish you and mom the best of luck with all of this.
The care giver will call if there is an issue.
IMO you talk to her too many times as it is, several times a day? What for?
Set your boundary and stick to it, the ball is in your court.
You can put her on no call if you have a smart phone or you can put your phone on do not disturb.
You do not have to answer and you also do not have to listen to it ring.
You have a right to your peace and privacy, and she won't remember she called and you didn't answer. Or, if you want to have fun, converse and tell her what she wants to hear. "Why, yes, I heard from Aunt Mehitabelle just last week. She said to tell you she'll visit as soon as she gets back from Istanbul." No harm in making the conversation interesting for both of you.
What would happen if you just didn't answer the calls (block the number or just let it ring?) Does the caregiver know how to get hold of you if you did not answer your phone?
I don't think you should remove the phone. Your Mom doesn't see anything wrong in her actions. On top of that, in her mind, to her, everything is important enough for you to be notified. That being said, you need to do something on your end (e.g. block the call, let it ring and let it go to v-mail.). However, what ever you do, you still need to be available so that either the Head Nurse or the caregiver can get hold of you during these times. If you remove the phone, your Mom may feel abandoned, and that will lead to a different set of behavior problems.
The other issue could be that she is lonely. Is she in a group setting or is it only her and a caregiver? If she is in a group setting, talk to the Head Nurse to see what they recommend to do. If it is just her and the caregiver, see if the caregiver could play some games or do exercises with her during this time period to distract her.
Contrary to popular belief, people with dementia can learn new behaviors. It just takes them longer to learn the lesson.
Before you implement any suggestion about not answering the phone, you need to tell the Head Nurse and the caregiver how to get hold of you during these times.
Good luck!
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