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I have known people to legally divorce to avoid ending up penniless.
You could also possibly legally separate.
In any case I would consider a division of assets so as to preserve your one half of your assets in the marriage for your own needs in future.
Your husband will then have his one half of the assets and he will enter care, spending them down until her has no assets and has to go on Medicaid.
This is quite honestly what I would consider. There is no reason that anyone even be told that this legal divorce has been done.
I had a CPA who had to divorce his wife who was comatose and in a vegetative state for many years before she died. He had two young children at the time of the accident that left his young wife in this condition. He had to have care hired for them. He could either give away all his assets to care homes or he could do as he did with a divorce and division of assets so as to care for his children.
Do see an attorney for your options. I see no way otherwise to preserve your combined marital assets other than about 100,000 which would take care of your future needs for about one year.
This is a time when you need expert advice, not the opinions of a bunch of folks on a Forum. I am so sorry this choice is now your to make. I wish you the best.
If that insurance policy was purchased by u or husband and has cash in value, Medicaid will require it to be cashed in. If its an employer policy it does not havevto be cashed in. There are some retirement funds that are protected. See an Elder Lawyer well versed in Medicaid.
And I also agree that seeing an Attorney is a good idea. There are many options there are Trusts you can look into, divorce is also an option.
Also look into other ways that might take the burden from you.
If he is a Veteran there may be some help there from programs that will provide some caregiving help as well as sending you supplies you need.
If he is a Veteran you can also get paid for caregiving.
Depending on other medical conditions where and when he served might make a BIG difference in benefits he may be eligible for. Contact your local Veterans Assistance Commission.
Check your local Senior Service Center or Area Agency on Aging and see if he qualifies for any programs they may have.
Also...because it is me responding..Check to see if he may qualify for Hospice. You would get a lot of help and all the supplies and equipment that you need.
You can also hire caregivers. this takes a great burden from you. You can go through an agency or hire privately. the 2 BEST caregivers I hired had recently gone through the CNA Certification course at the local Community College.
i have a hospice nurse 1x per wk to check vitals and she or other nurses are always on call…day or night. I have a CNA (cert. nurse asst) come 6x per wk for bathing and linen chg. I have hired 3 part time caregivers. One is 3 1/2 hrs per wk; one is 4 hrs per wk and the other is 3 hrs per wk. I do the rest of care for my husband with Alzheimer’s. currently I’m spending a little over $12k per yr on caregiving help. Much better than $10kper month! I do live in a rural area so you’d need to check,your prices but I bet you’d still do better with home care. Hospice social worker had word of mouth recommendations on independent caregivers, because the companies (Care@Home, Right@Home Visiting Angels etc) were a little more expensive.
Hospice supplied a hospital bed, all the diapers he needs and we even had a Hoyer lift and wheelchair, although we gave them back to hospice since my husband is totally bed ridden now and unable to even sit up in a wheelchair.
Hospice also provides a social worker and chaplain. Contact your local Area Agency on Aging (Google them). They will have hospice come and evaluate to see if your husband qualifies.
And if one or both of you served in the military, there are VA benefits available that you qualify for.
Remember you will need to do some the care yourself if you are able…hiring full time care would be just as costly as a nursing home. But with hospice paid for by Medicare it’s doable.
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