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If you would not be willing to clean houses for a living or drive seniors to appointments for an income, you are likely not going to want to do it for your parents, who will make more demands. These two things can easily be hired out. Moving in to do that for them one should have their head examined first, and recall how difficult it may have been to leave the first time after college....
You want to willingly step back into the role of Cinderella?? I think not.
Mom and Dad's manipulation shine through your post like a beacon. You go back and you'll be in misery again.
I used to try to clean for my mother. Her apt is attached to brother's house. I THOUGHT I was doing a good thing for my mother. She never said much, just not to throw anything away, and other than obvious garbage, I didn't. (In my thinking, a completely dead plant IS garbage....so.....I got kicked in the teeth.) She never said anything, rather let my very hostile brother say it for her. To hear him, you'd think Satan had showed up to work. I threw out a completely dead plant. Horrors!
Do I go back and clean anymore? Not on your life. I won't even put a dish in the sink. Mother is so passive aggressive--and brother is angry at the world. Why go into that environment?
So sad--mom and dad can't go to a movie or the mall for 2 hours? Well, that's on them.
And using that "We're failing" line....honest to goodness, we're on deathbed #30 with mother....why is it people like that live forever, and so miserably??
How you were treated is called ABUSE. Don't walk willingly back into it.
I also spent the holidays away from my 90 yo narcissistic mother. She quit speaking to me a couple of months before Thanksgiving, which was also her birthday, then called me last of all the family, acting like I would of course show up for it all. I said no thanks and had a good time home alone with my cats and books. I also skipped Christmas because the thought of having to see her and her flying monkeys made me nauseous.
My mother lies to me and about me and has been mean to me all of my life. I was miserable growing up and left the day I finished high school at 17. I stayed gone for 43 years and was totally estranged the last 15 years of that.
I had a change of heart and moved back a year ago but find that she is worse than ever. She's selfish, mean and completely lacking in empathy. She can't understand anything but thinks she's a genius and talks down to me. Her voice and facial expressions look like the Wicked Witch. I now live three miles from her and can't stand seeing her or her handwriting or hearing her voice--it takes me a month to feel better after any contact. I can't talk anything through with her or be honest and straightforward because she becomes furious and retaliatory. She is truly mentally ill and there is no fix.
These people don't change and there is little good in them, unless it's for show. Please don't give up any more of your life, health or happiness to these mean people.
So don't do this.
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