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im honest about some things with my mom, but even after im honest, she will get it mixed up.
a good lady friend of my moms at the assisted living passed away on 7/4. my mom has been eating meals with her since 2011. my mom has been asking me what happened to her and I have told her the truth, that she passed away. my mom seemed to accept that. I think shes going to stop asking about it soon. :/
BTW, her dog is very much alive and lives with us, too. Most of the time she remembers that her dog is here. (She is completely obsessed with her and usually just wonders where she is if she isn't in her line of sight. I get to hear "Where's Robin?" about 72 times a day.)
Occasionally she will ask direct questions like if she sold her house. Should I be upfront with her then? I feel like she unconsciously knows. Like it's in there somewhere but isn't accessible. The analogy that my husband made was a road blocked by a fallen tree.
I'm glad I found this site. This disease isn't easy to deal with, but it's nice to know that there are others going through the same thing who can help. Thanks, again.
Divert her attention. When she begins to ask the same question jump in there with something else like, "I just got the most beautiful cantaloupes from the grocery. How about a slice or two?" Or any number of a thousand other diversions you can come up with. Start thinking some up in your mind now so you'll have them on deck when you need them.
When she frets about the proper clothing take an outfit out for her. When she wonders where her dog is (did he die? or was he given away when she moved?) remind her that her neighbor is watching the dog for now (if the dog died).
Changing the subject and diversion can be exhausting but trying to reason with someone who has dementia is an exercise in futility.
If your MIL is still reading, you might want to try a similar note with information about MIL's move to your home, where her things are now, etc.
when it would get a little dark outside. he would tell me. "shouldn't you be going soon, you have a long way to drive home."
after awhile you feel like you could write a book about all the way-out things they can come up with.
if you can just agree, with whatever they say
otherwise you wear yourself out talking in circles.
and I know, constant questions with my mom(in AL)...I know ...oh how I know :(
edit. about stopping reminding her, you can say anything you want. anything that will keep the peace. whatever works for YOU. white lies accepted.
When my 96-year-old dad tells people I'm his dad, I go along with it. When he says his wife was just here and asks where she went, I tell him she went shopping and she'll be back soon (my mom died 8 years ago). When he says he wants to go home (to his childhood home where he last lived in 1940), I tell him it's too late tonight, so get a good nights sleep and we'll leave right after breakfast and his reply is always something like "Okay, that sounds good." I've found that accepting my dad's "realities" and using theraputic fibs to make things smoother help keep him content and me less frustrated. Best wishes.