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From the time she stepped foot into our home she announced that she is "the meddling mother-in-law" she has now recovered miraculously from the broken femur bone and is now walking again. She is bored to tears but everything we suggest for her to do ......she resists.
Today she saw a bug on the window and because we would not take care of it quick enough she decides to take the toilet bowl brush to kill it. Why?! I could not believe my eyes and told her that it was unsanitary to do that. She insisted that we are planting bugs to kill her and she has to take care of it herself! I am the only living child -no other family other than my 27 yr old daughter. Our lives revolve around her and at 47 yrs of age I can take no more of this.
My husband wants to take control of the situation but I am afraid of him taking it too far. He feels that she is destroying our lives and he is so angry. I am caught in the middle of keeping him calm and dealing with her foolishness.
I have began the search for nursing homes but in the mean time I am searching for a senior day care where she can socialize more and I can return to work before I lose my mind!
I agree with Joseph......my mother is not the person I once knew and I have shed so many tears because I feel nothing but hatred from her as she literally is working on destroying everything I have worked so hard for. I continue to pray for peace in this situation.
Another thing to consider is the plumbing. I've become the toilet manager and plunging expert. If I don't catch a problem, Mom will try to fix it and flood the house. So, even if weight isn't an issue, you may have to hide the food.
Another issue is that food gets left out, not put back in the fridge. If it's warm when I find it, I toss it. However, our dairy seems to spoil faster than it used to. I think it gets left out for hours, then put back before I catch it. We're spending over twice what we used to for food now. I get microwave food, single serving snacks and smaller cartons. I discovered that I have to open the packaging ahead of time. I tried having a batch of something made to last a few days. I end up having to eat all the leftovers 'cuz Mom picks new things or something else.
Can you work out a printed schedule display that ties meals to a clock? When my mom is confused about something, I ask her to refer to the clock. It has the temp, day of week, AM/PM and date. Your dad might respond to visual cues better than attempts to reason with him.
What about snacks that he likes all the time? Does he like string cheese? We have lots of yougurts.
Being awake all night might be helped by lighting tricks, routine, exercise, stuff like that. Mom used to get AM and PM confused. She would wake up from a late nap, think it was morning and start drinking coffee and want to go somewhere. I had to take all the coffee out of the house and leave only a small jar of decaf. You could ask his dr. about using melatonin supplements. If they are used all the time, or too high a dose, they can shut down natural production in the brain. Maybe his normal production is already shut down??
Ad lib soup sounds like a good, healthy idea...helps keep you hydrated too. Is he safe enough not to burn himself or the house? I had to take the buttons off the stove a long time ago. I only bring one out when I'm cooking. Can you provide things to eat that take effort and attention to get at? We have chocolate in the form of individually wrapped Hershey's kisses. It slows down consumption, sort of.