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Sounds like a beautiful and meaningful day for the entire family.
I’m sure that your aunt knew how much all of you loved her.
Yesterday we scattered 1/3 of her ashes in the garden of the home she shared with her sister since 1977. Everyone got a chance to scatter some of the ashes. Read the "ashes to ashes" commission from the Book of Common Prayer, read scripture, prayed, shared loving memories of her and I kissed everyone and told them how much Aunt Nancy loved them her whole life, thanked them for loving her, visiting her, being generous to her and thinking of her. My youngest son (now age 24) cried so hard it took everyone by surprise.
Today we all went to "our beach" in our bathing suits with more of her ashes in a large conch shell. Did a similar ceremony, read the Disturb Us O Lord prayer by Sir Francis Drake, then released the ashes underwater, scattered flowers above it. It was sweet and peaceful to watch the white cloud of ashes-to-sand stream out in the current with red, pink and yellow flowers floating above on the crystal clear blue-green water.
Thank you to everyone who commented and left your thoughts and ideas.
A was diagnosed with ALZ. In the early stage her DIL asked her what did she want for her funeral. A said to cremate her and then put her Mom, her husband and her together somewhere. The DIL asked her where was the Moms ashes. A says "Under the bird bath in the back yard" where's Bill. A says "down in the cellar in the filing cabinet under "B"...for Bill.
In our case, the only restriction is if ashes are scattered in the water, they must be scattered at least three miles from the shore.
Some choose a body of water, a garden, a favorite park, etc.
I would choose a place that had special meaning to your aunt.
Many people choose to have a memorial service at the same time as the scattering of their ashes.
Your aunt was blessed to have a niece who cared about her so very much.
I would also take a few photos from the event to share with her sister if you feel that is appropriate to share them with her.
If you plan on doing this on the sly in the ocean, get away from shore, just common courtesy, IMO.
Here is a link to ideas about scattering ashes in Florida and rules pertaining to doing so:
https://www.thelivingurn.com/blogs/news/state-guide-to-scattering-ashes-florida-edition
Best of luck to you.
Well needless to say I wasn't going to pay to scatter his ashes, so we went out around 8:00 a.m. on a Monday morning and my son was kind to go a little farther out in the ocean and he just opened the box and submerged it letting the ashes just go into the water without blowing back in anyone's faces as I've heard tell of that happening.
I didn't get a close look at his ashes, but what I did see it just looked like sand to me.
I like your creative ideas for her ashes as I believe it should be something special and significant to your loved one.
Have a great time in Florida!