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For help on the whole finance piece, try giving MIPPA, a federal program, a call. They will probably be able to give you ideas and help. https://acl.gov/programs/connecting-people-services/medicare-improvements-patients-and
The programs are administered by each state who might pass the responsibility to the county.
He was during the Korean War. He then had to qualify having less $$$ amount of income and a home is not counted. It takes about 8 months to receive benefits around 1,400.00 a month which is paid retroactive to the person not the assisted living facility. If the facility does not accept Medicare or and veterans payments which will not be enough after being self pay for at least 2 years, then I would immediately start looking for a good Medicare place and get on as many waitlists as possible. I recently was touring facilities very nice ones 11,000.00 monthly ones. They had 6 rooms for low income medicare SS out of the 6 ,2 of them were available.
Most people don’t think to check into those high end places which are required at least in California to have some ratio of rooms.
My Father did not qualify due to income. They are very knowledgeable over the phone. I can give you our local number 707 565-5960 but all Veterans Benefits usually have a local number.
I agree find a place or have her family members find a place, so the burden doesn’t fall on you two again.
I would have a really good and firm talk with your husband as well as going down memory lane the last time you two took on the care of your MIL before.
Boundaries !!!
Good Luck You Have To Take Care of Yourself before you have the strength to take care of others.
It is best to get started on the Medicaid process now as the switch from private pay to Medicaid can be smoother.
Where is she now? In a facility not local to you? Out of state? Near any other relatives?
Who is her PoA? Is it you or your husband? Does she have one at all?
If she doesn't have a PoA, is she willing to move to a different facility and understand why?
I'm asking these questions to get a sense of whether you have any power in this situation if your MIL is no longer competent to make good decisions on her own behalf, and it not, then who is legally able to make anything come about.
If she doesn't have a PoA and is not competent to assign one, and is not willing to move -- this will be a problem *for her*. If you're not her PoA or legal guardian, you are out of the picture at that point and the facility may have to have social services come in to being guardianship process. Or, a family member can pursue guardianship.
It would be helpful to know the answers to the questions above.
Some States allow Medicaid after paying at least 2 yrs privately in a MC. See if ur State allows this, if so, talk to the director. If not, you will need to put Mom on Medicaid and place her in Long-term care that excepts Medicaid. You may want to think about doing that before she runs out of money. Use what she has left to place her now. About 3 months before her money runs out, you apply for Medicaid. If all goes well, it did for me, Medicaid will kick in as her money is gone. Its easier to get her in LTC if you start out paying privately.
When the funds are gone MIL, if she remains alive, will go onto Medicaid and into a Nursing Home that accepts those funds for her care. There will be no choice in that.
You need to come to peace with this knowledge.
Not everything can be fixed, and throwing yourself upon MIL's funeral pyre will merely sacrifice your own life along with hers.
You cannot know the future. You can't predict it nor can you fix it from here.
You need to correct some of your circular obsessive thinking on this. Every single time it comes into your head tell yourself that Future You will deal with this when it comes, but for today all is well, and Present You has a right to enjoy that.