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You are at an age where you need to be building your life. These are critical years for you if you want a career, a husband, and children. I have a feeling that your mother would be more honored having grandchildren visiting her than having you take care of her 24/7. In your shoes, I would sign up for some classes to refresh my education and start looking to enter the workplace. We all hope that something will work out eventually, but that only happens in stories. We have to decide what we want to do, then make it happen.
I know that you feel torn between wanting to be a good daughter and wanting to fill the needs in your own life. You can do both. 3pinkroses had excellent suggestions on how to do this. Talk to your mother's doctor and see about bringing in social services to see what is available for your mother. It may be that you can find something that your mother enjoys more than what she is doing now. Many good thoughts coming your way.
You have your life ahead of you and if your mother is in a nursing facility; you can still be her caregiver. She can't walk or stand and therefore requires more care. If you cannot afford care to come into the home; don't disqualify a quality skilled nursing facility. My mother was living in one and adjusted to it nicely. It did take a period of time to adjust; and when you make their room at the facility decorated with all their favorite things, it helps the adjustment tremendously.
There are many functions to take part in; even in a wheel chair - their are others to meet there as well. My mother made some wonderful friends. She could leave her room and go to the lovely lunch room they had or stay in her room and eat; whatever she preferred. There was a recreation room with entertainment, and they even had outings to restaurants and shopping occasionally. I'm just hoping to give you an idea of NH facilities that are a viable alternative to living at home with you.
Who is going to provide for you in your future if you don't get out into the working world? You have sacrificed and been a wonderful daughter, and I know your mother realizes that. You need to take a different course. There are many of us on this forum who will help you with information and guidance in any way we can. Bless you for all you have done and hugs to you across the miles.