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I really encourage you to seek a palliative care consultation. I am a Nurse Anesthetist and I can tell you that even the kyphoplasty will require sedation and the positioning for it is extremely difficult and painful. Sometimes less is more. And the treatments are causing more harm. Comfort care can even get you more days together, interventions can hasten decline.
Best of luck
Margaret
And I agree with Barb. Get her pain under control. That can only help.
Dementia patients are notoriously bad at reporting pain.
If she is babbling have they assessed her for stroke? When my dad was on a narcotic for pain after falling and surgery he also was out of it. We need a bit more info. But agree that care conference is needed assuming she’s still in rehab or skilled nursing.
Mom still barely eats or drinks. An IV is keeping her hydrated but they want to send her back to rehab today.
Her compression fracture has been painful but they have fitted her with a back brace. They backed off the strong pain meds and are now using Toradol which, I understand, is more an anti-inflammatory. She's six days removed from the morphine. She's not a candidate for surgery.
We tested her again for a UTI and it came back negative. We're a week since the anesthesia used for her MRI (I don't know which one it was but will ask). She's still very confused and sometimes hallucinates but, at times, carries on a decent conversation. It's almost like you can see a light come on in her only to dim again in a few minutes. She does things like fold and refold her pillow cases and rearranges the little table beside her bed. Lots of mood swings. She gets very angry and frustrated at my sis and I only to smile at another visitor.
Mom has a living will which states she doesn't want a feeding tube.
I've been reading a lot about palliative care and hospice. I think our first goal is for Mom to be comfortable before looking to rehab her back. If she's hurting, I can't imagine she'd have the will to rehab. And rehab might just send her right back to the hospital. She's much worse now than when she went in 11 days ago.
I also saw some articles about the late stages of dementia and she has most of the symptoms. Thanks again for all the advice.
She was taken back to rehab on Monday only to go back to the hospital on Wednesday. The rehab told me they feared she was having a stroke (face droopy, very disoriented). She was rushed to the ER.
When I got there, I saw her state and I too thought she might have had a stroke. But, within an hour of being on an IV, she starts improving. Her tests come back showing she was dehydrated and has a slight UTI. She'd only been in rehab less than 48 hours after being on an IV in her previous hospital visit. The doc said dehydration does add to the severity of dementia but usually not to the levels we were seeing.
I call the Care Manager at the rehab and, sure enough, she'd been given a opioid for pain relief after I had spoken to her the day before saying that we needed to find alternative ways to relieve her pain as she had a reaction previously when given opioids.
Fast forward to now...
Mom is back in rehab. She is eating well. We have a lot of her favorite drinks now in her room. She was on Lasix (I think) because of swelling and we've removed her from that. We're treating the pain with Tylenol and another arthritis meds. Her primary care physician is supposed to meet with her rehab doc and a pharmacist to work out some pain relief options that agree with the long list of her other meds and Mom's reaction to opioids.
24 hours later back in rehab and all is good so far. I'll follow up once I get information on the pain meds they recommend. Thanks to all for the advice.
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