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You could set up a meeting and discuss options. One might be that despite what he wants a staff person should come every other morning and help him with a shower and clean clothes. (or maybe start with every third day to ease into this and make it less intrusive for him)
At this point you do not want to move him to a new building, wait until restrictions are eased and you would be able to visit and he would be in a better position to be in a "new germ pool" sort of like when the school year starts every kid comes home with a cold, you do not want him picking up anything if he were to move now. And a move will probably lead to a decline anyway. ( it will happen no matter when he is moved to Memory Care it is expected)
You need to advocate for your dad, they will not suggest a move probably unless it becomes a safety matter either for him or the staff.
With the prices being less at the AL, just follow their lead and move him when they suggest it. You can always talk to the administrator about it. The administrator at my Mom's AL was great, and she knew the time was coming and she understood my frustrations with the nurses and their games. But because it was "subtle" it was hard for her to take any disciplinary action.
I faced that same situation with my mother last May after a hospitalization & rehab for pneumonia. Her dementia declined AND she became wheelchair bound. She was refused entry back into her ALF apartment but accepted into their Memory Care building, which she hates. A SNF is her next stop.
Best of luck!
I often thought if that was the plan of the staff, to let the decision be made by my mom.