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Mom just passed as of Monday. I'm heartbroken.
She went onto hospice June 30 after ending up in the hospital. I really thought I would have more time; but nope. She's not in pain anymore at least.
I plan on writing out her story and path we took to the end, just to be able to help others going through this.
Thank you everyone for your advice in this.
I am so grateful for the information you have provided. It helps with where my head keeps going (not too good of a place). I will know more as of the 11th as that is her follow-up with her pulmonary doctor following her discharge. I will be asking about palliative care and/or hospice care.
The unknown is the scariest thing I think.
I am so sorry that your MIL died yesterday :( I know that you have been thorough a lot with her. Thank you for being willing to share your story with jesdenm so soon after the death of your MIL.
Jesdenm, I think that Worriedincali has answered most of your questions for now. And I think that you need to have your doctor ask hospice to evaluate your Mom to see if she qualifies for their care.
My Dad developed pulmonary fibrosis about age 70 and he lived to age 78 (the fibrosis developed because he had a ruptured appendix when he was 8 years old which led to lung abscesses and other problems). He died of a heart attack most likely related to a gastrointestinal bleeding. He was on oxygen for the last 5 years of his life and he had NO lung sounds (so no air was going into or out of ) his lower lungs for the last 2-3 years. My Mom was diagnosed with pulmonary fibrosis last year. So far, it doesn't seem to bother her too much yet.
This is a lot to take in. Take a deep breath and know that we are here for you and for your family.
No matter what happens with your Mom, God will hold you close and give you His strength because He loves you, your Mom, and your family. God Bless.
She went for a lung transplant consultation in mid February (something your mom might want to consider looking into) and was not a candidate due to scarring on her liver. 2 weeks later at the very end of February, her doctor performed a series of tests and said she had 3 months left. She is the one who accepted that and agreed to hospice. And she lived exactly 3 more months. Rest assured, your mother will not suffocate to death. If the doctor feels your mom has less than 6 months left, it would be a good idea to discuss hospice. If and when you and mom decide its time, make sure you talk to her and find out what she wants. Include other family members that are involved.I too was very worried that my MIL would suffocate to death, suffer until the end. But she didn't. Hospice definitely did NOT speed up the process, the meds they provided allowed my MIL to pass quietly, peacefully in her sleep. If you have any questions at all, I'll answer them to the best of my knowledge. My MIL never had any episodes, she didn't get sick and require hospitalization, no flare-ups, she just declined very fast.
Hospice might give you better access to all kinds of symptomatic relief.
I'm so sorry that your mom is dealing with this awful disease.