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When my mom moved into the facility 12 years ago, they required her doc to complete some forms, but she didn't have a full-blown psych evaluation.
In my mom's place, she gets two meals a day, housekeeping once a week and they take care of her apt. as far as any repairs go. She doesn't have any outdoor area to keep up. Her next door neighbor has an aid with her 24X7, even though she's also in independent living. So there are options available, but most of them are pretty expensive.
Good luck with your decisions.
Don't broach the subject of dementia with your husband again. If you need to, call it "getting older" or memory problems. Why not call it little strokes? My husband calls it ADHD.
The doctor won't talk to you, but you can talk to him or at least send him a letter. Would your husband agree to you signing mutual HIPPA releases, so you could each consult the other's doctor? When I talk about making plans for Medicaid, I say it's for if I have to go to a nursing home. It certainly could happen that way. We're all just one bad fall away from disability.
Laugh as much as you can. My husband responds well to being called a poopyhead. Think of something outrageous and funny to accuse him of, like having a romance with Angelina Jolie, or being a CIA spy -- whatever would be funny and make him feel a little bit proud of himself.
I think it's hard to care for a husband because we may love them, but we also kinda hate them. The more I can make myself have compassion, the easier it is to be nice and let things roll off my back. Hang in there!
This was the start.
It's hard, but I wouldn't allow her to make the final decision to senior living especially if she is already having memory trouble. You'll still have same issues with her having to manage the house, eating, cooking, cleaning, and sometimes these places are more for active seniors and therefore they have to still bre responsible for yard upkeep, gutters, watering, etc....I know because my in-laws moved to such a place and now can't keep up with everything and even though they hire out, they have frustration with it meeting their stds, etc. They would like to move again because my FIL has mobility and memory issues, but honestly, he just isn't up to another move to new surroundings.
As the dementia worsens and it will, you'll be faced with moving her again anyway and you will be traumatizing not only her but yourself and she'll have to make new schedules and acquaintances all over again.
Anticipate where her health needs are going and plan for that in your choice of living quarters.
PS. Good luck in convincing your mom. I missed my opportunity and next go round, I plan on eliciting drs and case workers to help tell her where she needs to go. I've already picked facilities. She wanted in home care, but it didn't last long because she fired them and is paranoid about anybody in the house. All are intruders in her mind, including her own children at times.