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If there is a sudden loss of function or abrupt change in health, call 911. If you find Mom and she is already deceased, you may also need to call 911 so that there is legal documentation of her passing.
Your first step is a consultation with her PCP so that you know her overall health and can plan for long term care. Death takes care of itself.
We prepaid the Neptune Society because we didn't want anyone to have to go shopping at a mortuary.........devastating experience: one phone call and they make the arrangements. For the remaining ashes, do an Internet search for "ashes art."
She died at home, nobody else was there. YB simply called the mortuary and they scheduled a time to come get her body. She was not on Hospice, but aged 92 and we knew she didn't have a lot longer. The police were not called either.
Maybe it varies from state to state.
Blessings
in a nutshell: documenting all financials in every way shape and form, with account numbers and amounts, addresses, phone numbers contact them for the procedures, POA,
here’s something important: bank accounts - you have to have a beneficiary listed otherwise the bank will keep your money. They told me so.
And It may sound a little creepy butthink of all the things you would have to take care of if you were moving and telling somebody else what to do with all of it. And then the funeral arrangements themselves.
i’m sure you’re gonna get a lot more advice. God bless. ❤️
If Mom dies in the home, then 911 is called. A Coroner will pronounce the person dead. If the person has seen a doctor in 6 months for a specific reason, like heart, the Coroner will probably just sign off. Its up to the Coroner if there should be an investigation. Once he signs off, then it will be your responsibility to call the Funeral Home.
"Acquiring the legal pronouncement of death is an important step, and generally one that can only be performed by a doctor or coroner, not, for instance, ambulance EMTs. However, some states allow for registered nurses or even paramedics to give a pronouncement of death, depending on the person's care setting."
In my State RNs can pronounce death. My boss did it more than once.
If hospice is indeed involved already, they would have worked out with you the next steps when death occurs: call them, they would have set up the who picks up the body, where is goes etc. all as part of the their planning. And yes, best to think all this through and made what decisions you can now so when the time comes it is not just more to deal with. One can also pre pay funeral costs so that part is all done too.
If hospice is not involved and death occurs at home, most likely the local police must be involved (again to rule out any possible wrong doing in the death). This happened with an elderly aunt. She passed unexpectedly in the night -- likely heart attack, in bed -- her brother (my uncle) found her in the am. They (bother and sister) lived in the same home. He call me and I said you have to call the local police, call the non-emergency line rather than 911. The police arrived, just before I got there w/my mom at the time. My cousin also arrived. ALL who showed up even if NOT there when the death occurred had to be interviewed by the police so one thing (I did not know) is do not have more and more people show up at the house and that means hours and hours more of the police interviewing all there.
It took about 3 hours for those interviews, each done individually and separated from the others all while the body layer in the bed (awful). Finally, the interviewing was done, the local coroner person showed to write the death certificate and THEN we were given permission to call a funeral home to pick up the body. They cam 2 hours later. So start to finish, this was a full day. Again, if I had known, I would have advised my Uncle to call non-emergency and to NOT ask anyone else to come over as that just slowed the entire process down to a snails pace.
If you can get the DNR in place and hospice, this will be so much easier when the time actually come.
Sorry you are having to deal with this, none of this is explained or written in a how two book but there is lots of good advice here on this site. Talk w/your mom's physician about getting that DNR in place if not existing now and about ordering hospice. And ask the physician what he/she advises at the time of death if hospice is not yet on deck.
If she passes, you need to call non emergency police,but if witnessed and you want to start CPR, then it is 911. Even if you do call for CPR, chances are low on survival. The coronor will need to come by and pronounce. If you can get her on hospice, then you have more support. With hospice, you call their number then they will send out their APRN to pronounce. Both ways, you will need her Social Security number for death certificate paperwork if you have it. After paperwork is done then you can call the funeral home, unless death is suspicious. Expect the body to remain at the location for a couple of hours.
I learned that the hard way. My dad died first, so I used the mortuary everyone used in town. His cremation was $2800 including a dozen death certificates they talked me into buying.
When Mom died last year, I used a cremation-only place, and bought only five certificates (also too many). Total cost: about $800.
I've never needed more than one death certificate, as everyone who asks for one makes a copy and hands it back to me. The only one I haven't gotten back was the one the escrow company wanted when I sold their house, but apparently that one will also be returned.
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/what-are-advance-care-directives-140690.htm
Ask the doctor if palliative care is an option at this point, it's basically a care plan focused on retaining quality of life rather than seeking to extend life. Sometimes there is an overlap between palliative care providers and hospice providers so the transition would be speedy and smooth.
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/palliative-care-what-is-it-and-how-is-it-different-from-hospice-197744.htm
And prepaying is a good plan as well.
You would tell the funeral home exactly what you wanted done and they will arrange what needs to be done.
If mom is on Hospice all you have to do is call Hospice and they will take care of everything.
I urge you to contact Hospice. Call the one of your choice, interview a couple if you want. You will get support from a wonderful team of people. A Nurse that will come at least 1 time a week, more often if needed, a CNA will come 2 to 3 times a week to give a bath or shower and order supplies. You will get all the supplies briefs (aka diapers) pads, gloves, ointments delivered as well as equipment and medications delivered. You can request a Volunteer that will come and sit with mom while you get out and get things done for yourself. AND big bonus if you need a break you can get Respite, almost a week is covered/paid for by Medicare.
If she is not on Hospice then you would call 911.