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The first thing they did was set up our home with oxygen, reacue medications and assistive devices to ease my work load of caring for her. A nurse comes twice a week to evaluate her and a bath aid comes twice a week to help with bathing. They even pick up her medicine for me and provide bed pads, and disposable undergarmemts.
Patients do not half to be at the end of their lives to get help from hospice they just have to have an increased need for completing daily tasks.
As an RN:
I advise getting a pulse oximeter to start assessing her oxygenation - while she is free of COVID-19. If she does develop COVID-19 infection, she will develop a fever, shortness of breath AND her pulse oximetry readings will go down dramatically. If that happens, notify your doctor, health clinic, or emergency room to arrange for your wife to be tested, evaluated, and treated. You will have to stay in quarantine for at least 2 weeks while your wife is treated.
You can purchase your own oxygen; however, even the smaller portable units aren't cheap. Inogen is a common supplier. I can't remember the name of the company that made the tanks we got but will probably think of it as soon as I log out.
In the meantime, check out these google hits for various types of oxygen tanks and equipment.
https://www.google.com/search?source=hp&ei=PMBuXv6hLvCP9PwP3uG14A4&q=portable+oxygen+concentrator&oq=portable+oxygen+concentrator&gs_l=psy-ab.3..0l10.869.5862..6023...0.0..0.79.1725.28......0....1..gws-wiz.......0i131.lC0P_lP29M8&ved=0ahUKEwj-r7zm1p3oAhXwB50JHd5wDewQ4dUDCAs&uact=5#spf=1584316484433
This will help you price them to determine if you want to buy your own equipment.
What you might consider alternately though, and first, is to just order a pulse oximeter, which can measure the saturation rate through a finger. They look like this:
https://www.google.com/search?ei=Q8BuXv2VLdbEtQaHu4SwBQ&q=pulse+oximeter&oq=pulse+oximeter&gs_l=psy-ab.3..0i131i273j0i67j0i131l2j0i67j0i131l2j0l3.3180.5312..5435...0.1..0.112.994.12j2......0....1..gws-wiz.......0i71j0i131i67j0i273.gu8sz6kHGy8&ved=0ahUKEwi9w-bp1p3oAhVWYs0KHYcdAVYQ4dUDCAo&uact=5#spf=1584316666764
Any but the one second from the left end are types that I've seen. I've also seen them in catalogues. You could probably call local DME suppliers and find out if they have them, and could send one if you bought it. That would avoid having to make a trip.
The DME supplier arrangement is one of those interesting Medicare arrangements. If you want Medicare to pay for the equipment for use w/o having to purchase, the steps are specifically defined and you have to jump through the hoops. It does save money immediately, especially if you have Medigap insurance.
All the supplies are provided as well, and service in my experience has been top notch as we had some problems with the concentrator and my father, who eventually needed it 24/7, wasn't able to get the air he needed. I was able to conference call with Dad on the line around 10 p.m. in the evening and have a rep talk Dad through what to do to get the oxygen flowing again.
At what elevation do you live? If you're quite high, that might be a factor in Pam's difficult in breathing. Another option is to find some kind of filter for the coal stove; that could a major contributor to breathing difficulty in and of itself.
Your history of how you and Pam met and decided to share a life together is very poignant, moving and inspirational. I wouldn't be concerned about marriage; it's your individual choice, and I feel that people should choose arrangements that suit them, not what's typical for societal purposes.
Your posts are not only helpful but thoughtful. We need people like you on this forum. I truly appreciate your participation in this forum. I thank you for reaching out to this poster, others and certainly for myself 💗. I have always appreciated the advice that you have given to me.
So we just moved in together. Sorry if that offends any religious folk out there, but we knew that we needed each other, immediately, and saw no need to wait until we got married. Being together was by far, of the greatest importance.
Since then, for us, there just wasn't any kind of "small stuff" to be upset over, it's been that way throughout our 20 years or so together, and we've just never found anything that we needed to fight about, both of us knowing that fighting only leaves one or the other person feeling hurt, which has always been our greatest concern for each other, that we don't get hurt by anything or anybody, much less each other. Why do damage to the most important things in our lives?
So there are people who don't believe us, but it's true, we've never had an argument. If we disagree, then we simply talk it through, calmly, peacefully, until we have, the correct answer. There always is one, and of course in the end, one has to admit that we were wrong, at which point there is no need to argue, only a need to solve the problem, to find the answer, and then to move along with our lives. Pam is a bit smarter than I am, so mostly, hehe, it's me who needs to admit I was wrong, but I have no problem with that, at all. To me, life is about learning, and growing, from anyone who can teach me something, so there's no shame in being wrong, unless we insist that we aren't, which only causes the same problem to recur, at another time. Why do that? I just never did get that, but our love for each other only gets greater every day, because it's all about improving our lives, such as they are, and not some kind of one upmanship. I have my own areas of knowledge and skills, and she has hers, and so as a unit, we only improve ourselves, and each other, and the bond we have between us.
Yes. They call it "early onset", and it is more aggressive than it is for folks who get it later in life. Pam tried all of the drugs, for years, but they are in effect, poison, so we decided on DBS to fight the PD. And it does work. We were both stunned, absolutely stunned, on the day when the doc turned it on and then fine tuned it, and suddenly, for the first time in many years, her shaking, just, stopped! Pam looked ..confused, and I was shedding tears. It is an amazing thing, but this wound that won't heal is a big problem. If only the doc could close it up forever.
PD is indeed easier for those who get it later in life, but nonetheless, I'm so sorry to hear that it has happened to your Mother. I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy, if I had any enemies. But I'm sure that you're up on all of the latest remedies, and your Mother is very lucky to have you on her side. May you both stay strong, and find a little happiness wherever you can. In the end, that's all that really matters.
Thanks again to all, and to you NeedHelpWithMom, for your kind comment.
I would like to say thank you just for being the kind soul that you are. I can understand and appreciate your circumstances. It is evident that you are soulmates.
Hey, no need to apologize for the two of you moving in together. Not to me, anyway...love is love and honestly I have seen certain committed couples that did not have ‘legal’ marriage certificates. Sometimes they had a more solid relationship than ‘married’ people that I know.
I love my mom. I took care of her as long as I could, two decades, 15 years of those in my home. I wish her the very best. There were complications and she is now with my brother and sister in law.
In short, I burned out. My mom did not accept boundaries. My brothers who did nothing to help criticized me unfairly without even hearing my side. My own health, physically and emotionally started to decline and I surrendered caring for my mom.
This is why I cautioned you not to overextend yourself. Your situation is really hard.
I know the drugs give relief but not a cure. Mom takes Sinamet. Of course, mom getting diagnosed later in life was not a candidate for the surgery that younger people have tried.
I know two people who have tried the brain surgery. One was helped a fairly significant amount. The other one not so much.
They had one of the leading doctors in the Parkinson’s field perform the surgery but as you know, Parkinson’s disease is different in everyone.
I sincerely wish the very best for you and your beautiful soulmate. You are blessed to have found each other.
Take care and please keep us posted as to how you are doing and give us updates on Pam. 💗
At one firm where I worked, the firm provided room sized air filters for the staff. I always had one in my office, and it made a difference as office air was so dry.
Spider plants are also good air filters.
There are also steps you can take to reduce dust accumulation; I'm pulling out all my carpeting and exposing the wood floors underneath. For me they're easier to keep clean.
Staying home is probably the best thing. Like said, make sure you wash your hands well after handling anything from the outside. Maybe no visitors. If you do allow visitors, no kissing or hugging. My daughter runs a woundcare unit and was told people in the waiting room should sit 6 ft. apart.
So prevention is best now. And if you see respiratory distress you are, if your wife is a full code and you both wish heroic measures, left with calling EMS.
Bless you for the wonder of your loving care. May you both stay safe.
Fortunately, we live up in the mountains and so we're pretty much isolated to begin with. We're ordering food from our grocery store and all we have to do is pull up, pop the trunk, and then wave thanks to the kids who load it up.
Your comment is excellent. Prevention is key now, what with the virus running rampant. Please explain "full code" for me, if you would. Both of us still very much love being alive, and would gladly, lol, seek heroic measures. Thanks for the comment.
But see a pulmonologist for tests first, and raise the issue of oxygen. A pulmonary doctor can make determinations from the tests to be administered, then order the night time test.
If your wife's SAT rate is low enough that oxygen is ordered, you'd likely get a concentrator for home use and portables or E tanks for out of home use. If you do get to that point, order as many E tanks as the DME supplier will provide, as you want to plan for back-ups during power outages.
your wife is in a high risk group. Taking great care to prevent bringing the virus into your home, and avoid going out at all. So, oxygen seems like a good item for prep.
ask that deliveries be left at the door. Avoid having to have close contact with a delivery person.
Just read your bio. You’re an amazing husband. If everyone loved their spouse as you do, divorce rates would drop drastically. I realize divorce cannot be helped in certain cases and it is sometimes necessary. There are others who divorce over silly issues that could most likely be resolved.
No one could say that you and your wife have not lived up to your vows. You are quite an inspiration and extremely devoted. Please express all of your concerns to her doctor and if caregiving is overwhelming please seek help, either in the home or future planning for a facility.
Your wife is blessed to have you and she sounds lovely as well. I admire your commitment to each other.
My mom has Parkinson’s disease so I do know what it is like watching this horrendous neurological disorder. Your wife has a truly bad situation being diagnosed earlier in life.
My mom was not diagnosed until later in life so the disease progresses at a slower pace than a younger patient. My mom doesn’t have the same issues as your wife. Parkinson’s disease effects everyone differently. One thing is for sure. It only gets more difficult. There is no cure. Hopefully, one day there will be a cure.
Concerning the answer to your question if your doctor says no and you are not sure get a second opinion from another neurologist. That’s what I would do.
I have breathing issues due to asthma. Oxygen was needed for me while in the hospital with severe asthma attacks. Otherwise, I do have breathing treatments that I do with a machine they sent home with me from the hospital. I also have my inhalers. Two types of inhalers, one for emergencies and one that is used as treatment on a regular basis.
I don’t feel qualified to answer in regard to your wife’s situation. Ask a professional medical doctor for this information. Maybe one of the nurses that chat on the forum will be able to help you.
Best wishes to you and your wife. Take care.