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Have you discussed with your parents why they are showing such favoritism? Are they giving her money to supplement what she is able to earn in order to help her achieve "the good life" that you and your brother have the health to achieve on your own? Are they trying to even things up so all of their children have equal chances at a good life? Without hearing their side of it, it is difficult to get a real feel for this situation.
You might ask your parents if they love your sister more then you and your brother because that's exactly what it looks like if they give her money that doesn't have to be worked for, but they don't do the same for you and your brother. Let them know that it hurts you whenever you see them giving giving giving to your sister and not to you and your brother, regardless of whether you need it or not. In supporting your sister, if she is not physically or mentally incompetent, they are clearly playing favorites.
And in some states, if they ever need a nursing home and any medicaid funds are used, they could come after you for reimbursement of those funds.
Your parents can spend their money as they choose.
Since they have been doing this for 25 years, Medicaid may not regard it as a ploy to use up their funds to become eligible for Medicaid. I don't know about that, but that is the reason behind the "no large gifts" rule.
Sister works part time. How large are these gifts that "support" her?
If you want help convincing your parents that their financial behavior may become a problem for them if one of them needs care, you could consult an attorney specializing in Elder Law for specific advice about the possible consequences. You would have to pay for this consultation. Would a written report from a lawyer be more impressive to them than the advice of you and your brother?
If they are mentally competent, they can do whatever they want, but you need to make it clear to them that Medicaid won't pay when the money has all been gifted away. Reassure them that none of you will rescue them from their own foolishness. Let them think about it.
I know it sounds harsh but it is the life she has chosen. If there is a reason your sister cannot work then she needs to look at whatever services/funds are available in her area.