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Personally, I'd get my own place. Then she can either become self-reliant or remain a slavedriver with a live-in maid as a doormat. All she'd have to do is ring a bell.
If she's living with you, a realistic "To Do" list and a calendar on the fridge listing who's responsible for what might help. She can sweep around, help with the dishes and fold the laundry while watching TV. If that doesn't work give her a list of ALs to pick from.
In the meantime, a heart-to-heart chat is in order. Resentment festers and makes us do regrettable things, so let her know how you feel without being crude & crass.
I think I would resent someone interupting a show I was watching and insisting that I do something or other right now. Certainly I would want to finish eating before I did whatever it was the needed to be done.
Is Mother (or MIL) dismayed about her declining health and all the control she has lost over her own life. Is she asserting independence in ways that she can?
I wonder if it is time for a heart-to-heart conversation about what is expected of Mother. What does she think she can contribute? Can the two of you work out a reasonable schedule that isn't based on excuses and that also respects her need to control her day?
After you have come to an agreement about what is expected -- an agreement that she has had some input into and isn't just imposed on her -- could you just not pick up the task if she fails to do it?
I think you want to get to a point where you don't feel like her servant and that she expects to be waiting on hand and foot, and where she doesn't feel she has no control over her life, and she is supposed to not only supposed to do what you say but also when you say so, without regard to what she is doing. If she is living with you, having a mutually respectful relationship will worth the trouble it may take to establish it.
Good luck!