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I would try a flat lunch box, add ice, whether you use actual ice, frozen water bottle or a chiller mat would be dependant upon her skills, add food and leave open or just lay the lid closed.
This might work if she hauls the food to her bedroom, maybe it can be presented as an easy carrying solution.
Best of luck.
If you can’t stop your mother from eating lunch that Betty Crocker wouldn’t like, perhaps just let her do what she wants.
I feel sad for you...
This isn’t merely a food problem. She is in danger living alone and needs to have 24/7 supervision and care. Medicines are important. Nutrition is important. So is food safety and home safety.
Please, for her sake and yours, don’t let this go on.
The mother is not independent and needs 24/7 supervision . I do hope she doesn’t get left home alone.
Maybe a shelf stable milk box, banana, and pre-portioned cereal in a bowl?
My Dad would eat canned convenience foods like chili, ravioli, and tamales at room temperature, just pop open the top and grab a spoon. Note that these are usually high in sodium so they won’t work for someone with chronic heart failure who is trying to limit salt to control edema.
Today I was making the first frittata I’ve ever made and I thought of your mom. I thought I bet your mom would like this. DH aunt would, although she wouldn’t eat quiche. 🤔
It was so tasty and can be eaten warm or at room temp. Also baked sweet potatoes are not bad room temp.
I would watch her weight and let her do as she wants. If she eats at least one healthy meal a day that would be a win. I read once that an egg a day would keep an elder from becoming feeble.
I also used a small thermos for soups, stews, mashed potatoes, Mac and cheese. I would make a grilled cheese sandwich and leave it wrapped in foil to go with the soup. She can eat the amount she wants and save the rest for later. sliced cheese, apple slices, little cutie oranges, bananas all are easy to manage.
But there does sometime reach a stage where if the food isn’t clearly visible it may not be eaten. I put aunts food by her chair so she didn’t have to try to carry it from the kitchen.
DH aunt likes room temp protein drinks. Also small bottles of water with the lids loosened make it easy to handle and give you an idea of how much she is drinking during the day.
Your Mom has dementia and you seem to not see this. You are orbiting around her and you will eventually burn out trying to be her entertainment committee. Please watch some Teepa Snow videos on YouTube to educate yourself on what's going on with your Mom and get a sense for what more may be in store for her caregiving needs. You are trying to appease her but she'll never be able to feel or express gratitude for your sacrifices. Therefore, you need to either accept the inevitable (burnout) or decide to change the situation regardless if your Mom "likes" it or not. If you burn out, where will that leave your Mom? I wish you clarity, wisdom and peace in your heart on this journey.
Will she drink cold water, Iced Tea? Will she eat ice cream, watermelon and other cold items.
I am wondering if she has a problem with her mouth causing sensitivity.
Wait, I just thought of something else. There are insulated platters that you can keep things cold for hours. There are also insulated bowls that you can keep food warm. They are sold on Amazon.
Best wishes to you.