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As far as getting another order to evaluate, the first order should be good for another hospice to evaluate if you can get it from them. If not most hospices will be glad to contact the doctor and ask for a verbal order from him/her
My aunt (92) has vascular dementia. I’m like you, I have to add, “I think.”
She also takes PT and it really helps her. If she didn’t have it she would lose her mobility even more.
I have been told that a person on hospice can have PT if that keeps them more comfortable?? Sometimes I think it’s that the particular hospice doesn’t know how to code the request, hasn’t had the experience. I could be totally wrong.
My mom had CHF. When I asked about hospice at about 95, I was switched to a heart transplant clinic that managed her CHF for the rest of her life. She was never really on hospice, palliative for only a day.
She died in the hospital at 97. I have regretted her last hospital visit and wished that she had been on hospice for the last few months of her life, or at least for her last illness, so I agree with you on wishing to have it earlier rather than later.
I believe now, looking back, that if I had called in hospice on my own, she would have been accepted. Have you tried that? Using their doctor instead of my mom’s.
My mom had lost a lot of weight too but it was hard to tell due to the CHF.
Is your mom overweight even with the weight loss? Are her vitals good? Has she had recent blood work? That could be done at an urgent care or ER. Hopefully one of the many nurses on this site will see your post and can tell you what hospice is looking for. (Edit: I didn’t see Barbs post with the extensive list until just now. Takes me awhile to post).
Have you had her to a speech therapist for aphasia?
I know it sounds like snake oil but my cousin has had fabulous results using CBD oil with her mom who has Parkinson’s. Was non verbal and IS on hospice. She is now laughing, smiling, painting, enjoying life. She still has Parkinson’s. Not saying this is a cure but she is off of three meds (with doctors approval) and a delight to be around.
My cousin thought, what do I have to lose? And this stuff works right away. Not six months or never from now.
Her dad didn’t think he needed it, so cousin didn’t push it with him. Afraid he would want to drive again....
I think you are on the right track with looking for another doctor. Regardless of your course of action, I wish you peace.
Hospice eligibility criteria for dementia:
In order for a dementia patient to meet the hospice eligibility criteria, he or she must have a life expectancy of six months or less if the disease continues in its typical progression. For patients with dementia, it may be time to consider hospice when the patient’s physical condition begins to decline. Some key things to look for include:
a diagnosis of other conditions as COPD, CHF, cancer or congenital heart disease
an increase in hospitalizations, frequent visits to the doctor and/or trips to the ER
a diagnosis or pneumonia or sepsis
weight loss or dehydration due to challenges in eating/drinking
speech limited to six words or less per day
difficult swallowing or choking on liquids or food
urinary and fecal incontinence
Unable to sit upright without arm rests on chairs or may slip out of chairs and require sitting in special chairs
unable to walk without assistance such as a walker or now requiring a wheelchair
unable to sit up without assistance (will slump over if not supported)
no longer able to smile
So, what is your aim here? Would palliative care serve the same purpose? In other words, are you looking to give up the ER visits and repeat hospitalizations?
When my mother had repeated pleural effusions, her pulmonolgist finally said to me "stop poking holes in your mother" (fluid kept building up and kept having to be drained; it was painful and stressful).
We signed on the palliative care (she was in a NH at the time) and we all agreed that unless she fell, there would be no ER transport. She was treated "in house" for pneumonia at least once and a couple of UTIs. But we were determined not to do another hospital run, because each one left mom less and less alive.
We ended up doing hospice only at the very end, after a fall, and yes, another hospital run. Sometimes these things can't be helped.
((((((hugs))))))).
This is unbearably hard. Stick around here. We all know what you're going through.