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. I hope you can help him find something pleasurable for him so he can still challenge himself. There are some things worth risking, as we don't want to kill all of his dreams.
Good luck,
Carol
However, in general, I can tell you that people who have been athletic in the past, know the limitations of their body and they also know that it's possible to push beyond those limitations to some degree. I suspect your father just wants to see how much he can do. It's important to challenge ourselves to feel "alive", and former athletes or fitness buffs often pick physical trials to do this.
Participating in the race would be exhilirating, even if he had to drop out early. I have some personal experience with this sort of situation with my mother, and I urge you not to "break" his bike. In fact, I think you should support him in every way you can. At some point, he may decide that volunteering at the race would be a better solution, but it should be left up to him.
The suggestion to ride along with him is a good one. If you aren't able to do that, match him up with someone who would be capable of riding along for support.
"Dementia" covers a lot of ground. Aside from physical stamina, could he handle this cognitively?
My 85-y-o husband with dementia wants to bowl. He joined a senior league that isn't very competitive and is very supportive of him. It is great for his ego to be able to say "I still bowl once a week." He wishes he could still golf. We found a rehab center that sponsors a golf league for persons with disabilities. He loves it! He wants to ski. Sorry kiddo, even without dementia, at your age a fall could easily mean a broken bone and that would change the remainder of your life for the worse. No skiing.
Somehow we have to balance encouragement with realism. Good luck to you as you seek this balance for Dad.
Good Luck
Can you find a short bike race/ride in your area where your Dad could complete? Check with some local biking groups and see if another rider would be willing to mentor your Dad and ride with him. Maybe you could start a riding club for people with dementia or just older riders where they can get exercise but under supervision.