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If your parent is short on funds and you are too, consider tissue donation. The local organization that does research (ask the hospital for contact info) would take the remains after death, harvest any tissues suitable for research, cremate the remains, and ship those remains back to you in 3-4 weeks.
If your parent is a veteran, some of the funeral costs may be reimbursed. Look at VA site online.
Lastly, look at low cost cremations locally to get an idea of cost.
Just make sure, if your father is unable to sign for himself, that he is declared mentally or physically incapable of handling his affairs (which would activate the POA) and you/or other family member are his POA. And when you are signing the admission papers for her to enter a facility or hospital or whatever other papers you sign as POA, make sure you that you always sign your name followed by "as Power of Attorney for (your father's name)" - even though it might be cumbersome, but it covers your behind. That way you are showing that she is financially responsible and in no way are you responsible. If you sign just your name, you could end up owing $$ (but that is where the fine fine print comes in - you know, that clause on page 62 that says whoever signs is legally responsible.
As far as burial, it was the family's responsibility to pay for the burial/cremation. It all depends what the family wants and where you live. In the county I live in, cremation starts at about $1,500 plus the cost of the urn (which can vary from basic $150.00 to over $1,500). Burials here - without any services or anything else - just the burial - start at about $8,000 and go up depending on all what one wants, and doesn't include the plot which is extra - and once again, around where I live - it can be $10,000 and on up for just the plot.
It, as far as I know is 100% covered. there may be "out of pocket expenses" if you chose to use an In Patient Unit or a Skilled Nursing facility rather than caring for for them at home.
You will get all the Supplies, Equipment that you will need to safely care for them.
A Nurse will come 1 time a week. A CNA will come at least 2 times a week for bath or shower, order supplies and bedding change if needed.
you will have the ability to ask for a Volunteer that can do a variety of things or just sit with your loved one.
A Social Worker and a Chaplain will be assigned as well. That is your "Team" that will help you.
Funeral services, whatever you want will be paid for by the "estate". If there are any funds now make the plans now and pre pay the service. It can be as simple or as elaborate as you wish.
I would double check that Hospice sends 'a small bill' - it likely depends on the finances of the individual although my client had upwards of 1M and didn't pay anything for Hospice. And, it is NOT correct to say there is nothing more medically that can be done.
1. People do not need to be terminal to be in Hospice; and
2. A person may may 'graduate' out of Hospice depending on their health circumstances;
3. I believe a person is in Hospice for a year and then re-evaluated to determine if they continue in Hospice or not.
The inquirer of this post needs to check with hospice herself. And not rely on others' experience as there may be many variables to determine status / acceptance / costs. And, Hospice regulations may be different in counties or states - I do not know. Gena
Children neither have financial obligations, nor rewards, unless expressly given to them by the parent.
Additionally, a child does not have automatic release of confidentiality for medical staff to share information on the patient's status.
The information seems to be coming to the writer from a 3rd party (a GF or spouse) because the writer is completely out of the picture. To be clear: hospice has not asked for payment (nor will they); conversely, the money from pension, savings or social security does not automatically go to the child.
Hospice is not the time to be wondering these questions. Consider if you want to go and hold their hand for their peace or yours. But, leave the questions of money at the door.
But, there is a catch and you and your father's girlfriend need to know. They will DENY care, like an evaluation to see what's really wrong and to save his life especially if it is something simply done. In this case you must tell them 'TAKE HIM OFF OF HOSPICE'. Do not let him suffer or die needlessly. My sister had dementia and she did not deserve the horrible death they subscribed without telling family what was going on.
So, be careful! You are NOT responsible for the bills. But you can help in other ways. If they can not afford additional care for him. You can look into in home care. We have a program here in Wisconsin called IRIS. It is wonderful. It allows them to find who they want for his care (including family). They provide the funding for not only his care but things he would need in his home and even activities outside of the home. I believe all the states have similar programs for in home care. You could look into this for him or his girlfriend could.
Once you sign on to hospice, you are agreeing to forgo all curative care. Hospice may discontinue many of your medications, disallow blood draws and other diagnostic testing, disallow any procedures that may save your life. You need to enter hospice with eyes wide open, and fully understand what it is.
Hospice is about comfort, and only comfort. So, if you develop a UTI that is painful, hospice may allow antibiotics to be administered, but only because the antibiotics may relieve your pain. In general, hospice does not allow testing and treatments that may prolong your life, and hence, your suffering.
Palliative care, on the other hand, provides comfort care (like hospice), but also allows you to pursue curative treatments. So you get the best of both worlds. But hospice is a very narrow subset of palliative care, and has very strict requirements.
It's very important to know what hospice is, and what it is not.
Might be a good time to use some savings to pay for his cremation so you don't have to come up with the payment for that later on. Talk to social worker at hospital or facility where he is right now to start the process of paperwork for hospice care. If he plans to go home on hospice, figure out quick how many hrs of care he would have to pay for out of his pocket and how many Medicare/hospice will cover (they only pay for a brief visit - no regular shifts of care) and see if he can afford his care at home. May have to go to facility.
The Social Security Administration pays about $255 for funeral, as to how long it takes to get that, as anything, case to case basis, however most all Beneficiaries are eligible. Hospice is free. Medicare/Medical pays fully for most paitents to recieve hospice/pallative care. Room and board in most "assisted living facilities" is what ia not entirely covered. Be sure to check in with all choices and make them clarify in writing what they present, charge and the plan they have in place to help Dad. Going through something similar. Prayers and Best wishes to your Father and you.
https://www.ssa.gov/benefits/survivors/ifyou.html
Do we pay death benefits? A one-time lump-sum death payment of $255 can be paid to the surviving spouse if they were living with the deceased. If living apart, they were receiving certain Social Security benefits on the deceased's record.
https://www.aarp.org/retirement/social-security/questions-answers/social-security-death-benefit.html
My mother died in February of dementia and heart disease, and we're just now having her funeral service this Thursday (she was cremated). I'm sorry you are going through such a thing with your dad, and you have my condolences.
Best of luck with everything.
Burial/Cremation: Does your father have a will? Could he possibly have a pre-paid funeral plan? If he doesn't have a will at this point and his dementia is too advanced for him to make one, he will have died intestate. Any assets he has will go to his heirs. If his parents aren't living, then the assets will go to you as the sole heir.
If he dies intestate his estate will still have to go through probate and an executor will have to be named. This means that for the most part estate funds to pay burial/cremation costs will not be available immediately. I don't know anything about this problem, but you could check with the funeral home to see if there is a way to handle delayed payment.
Also check to see if your state, like mine, has what is called a small estate affidavit, which allows heirs to collect the decedent's property. If your father's estate is below a maximum value as established by state law and there is no real estate, you may be able to collect his property within 10 days. Check with the probate court in the country your dad lives in.
Beneficiary Accounts: If he has a durable financial power of attorney agent, that person can check to see if any of his accounts have beneficiaries named. If so, then that money does not go through probate and is available to the named beneficiary almost immediately after the account owner's death. Those funds can be used for burial/cremation if the beneficiary agrees. After his death, if you think you're a beneficiary of any of his accounts, bring a death certificate to the financial institution and ask if you have been named. If you have, you most likely will receive the assets right away.
Keep in mind that legitimate creditors, known creditors (such as hospitals) and taxes will have to be paid out of his estate, but you will not be responsible to pay them from your own funds unless you, for instance, co-signed to pay for something.
If for some reason in the end there is no money to bury or cremate him, check to see if your father's city or county has a burial assistance program. Also check with the county coroner's office. You may also donate his body to a medical school. Unless you sign an agreement to pay for it, you are not responsible for the cost of burial/cremation.
NOTE: Social Security: As far as I understand it, Social Security does not pay benefits for the month of death.
Suggestions. Not legal advice.
That even applies to a spouse. But since most spouses own things jointly (e.g. house, car, credit card, etc.), then a spouse would be liable for those specific accounts.
So, unless you signed your name as a cosigner of a loan, or as a joint owner of a credit card account, mortgage, etc., you are not responsible for your parent's debts or expenses.
A lot going on at one time for me, since I’m his only living sibling…
Primary question you need to answer for yourself is who has POA, you or the girlfriend? The POA document describes what authorities the POA now has or not. As POA, I will repeat what someone said, be sure you do NOT sign your name only - sign "Your Name, POA for John Smith."
Your parent's money will pay for his burial. You may use his money to prepay, arrange, etc. For my father, the VA buried him in the military cemetery with a very nice honoring way, engraved and placed a headstone, all for no fee. I thought this was always the case, but evidently others say not so, so be sure to check into your parent's VA benefits early so you don't duplicate and pay for something provided elsewhere.
Since hospice is now ordered, be sure to ask them for guidance for you, what you can expect from them, who to contact, what to expect your parent to experience and how you can help him and yourself.
My sympathies as you go through this. It was not long ago for me, too. Just know some days will be harder than other days, and when they are for me, I just let the day be what it is because I know tomorrow will be better/different. Peace.
Hospice is usually done in the home but in Dads situation it will be done in a facility. As said, sign nothing. This is the wifes responsibility and her responsibility to hand over financial information. I would think that a judge can subpoena her to do so. Dad is entitled to his SS and pension to go towards his care and 50% of assets.
Let the SW do the job. You really have no way of knowing whats what in that marriage. (U said wife in first post and GF in next) Me, I would not get involved at this point. Let him become a ward of the state.
Can you tell me what other illnesses or general signs of wasting or failure to thrive has led your parent's doctors to advise hospice? Do you feel you are well grounded in knowing what hospice is (end of life care)?
I advise you look online to educate yourself about Hospice, the mission, how it is paid for, what it includes, what the goal is.
Is your parent able to participate in his or her own care decisions at this time?
If so does the the parent wish to enter hospice?
Are you aware that Hospice means that there is no treatment now toward cure, and that few tests and no diagnostic procedures will be done? Are you aware of medication protocols that are aimed toward relief of any pain or agitation, even if those medications may mean death is hastened by some minutes, hours, days or weeks? Are you aware of all the support there is in hospice from social workers, clergy, grief counselors if needed?
Do a bit of research and it will help you form questions for Hospice interviews. I certainly do wish you the very best. I am sorry that you need hospice, but as a lifelong RN I thank goodness it exists. I wish you the best of luck.
Prayers for you and your family.
Hospice is covered by Medicare, Medicaid and private insurance.
Pre pay funeral services now. Doing that you will also be less likely to be talked into something you don't want when you are more stressed. If he is a Veteran the VA will provide a headstone and plaque for the stone. It will not cover the burial. Social Security will also provide a (very) small amount. (But depending on when he dies they may also take back the last payment that is sent.)
With Hospice you/he will get all the supplies and equipment that are needed, a bed that hopefully will have an alternating pressure mattress that can help prevent pressure sores. A Nurse will see him weekly. A CNA will come and give bath, dress, order supplies at least 2 times a week, more if needed. A Volunteer can be requested so that the caregiver can get a break, or the volunteer can help do some chores just let the Hospice team know what help is needed. And Hospice also will cover about 1 week of Respite each year. (This is covered by Medicare/Medicaid, Insurance)
Hospice is one of the best decisions I made when caring for my Husband.
Now 1 more thing, if your dad is a Veteran the VA may be of help as well. Contact your local Veterans Assistance Commission and they can determine if he qualifies for help and if so how much. It could be a little or a LOT.
For future needs he may need Medicaid. Each state is different, call the Medicaid hotline and ask all the questions.
You do not need to claim his body, the county or state will bury him, as indignant.
Don't panic, there is help available.
Hospice services (nurse, social worker, an Aide a few times a week, chaplain) are funded by Medicare.
Who is currently caring for your father's needs?