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You cannot control what others do, only your reaction to it. I would leave it alone, you can't make people do things they don't want to do. And you don't want anyone caring for mom that doesn't want to.
Which is it? There seems to be a serious communication problem going on.
Did you ever come out and ask your niece and great-niece in plain language why they will not give you a break and babysit your mother for a week-end?
Ask them and ask them plainly. Give them a chance to explain their reasons.
Does your mother have dementia?
Is she incontinent?
Does she wander around?
Is she aggressive and nasty to be around?
Did they always have a poor relationship with her?
Talk to them plainly and give them a chance to talk to you.
Also, you can put your mother into a nursing home or memory care facility paid for by Medicare and her secondary insurance for up to two-weeks a year respite stay. Yes, Medicare pays for facility respite caregiving services so caregivers can take a break.
Look into it.
A private caregiver can be hired to stay for the week-end too.
There are options so you can get some time off. Your niece and great-niece are not the only ones.
Generally speaking, these type of plans do not work out.
The 24 yo is helping her mother, seems like some will be in school most of the day and if needed she can hire someone to help her otherwise.
All I can say is stop giving them money, use it for respite, place your mother there for a weekend or a week so you can have some time of your own.
What is the plan as your mother needs more help? And what is the plan for YOU? Do you expect your niece and family to become your eventual caregivers?
What is your mother's financial situation? Are you POA? If so, then pay for respite so you can get away sometimes.
Contact your local Senior Center see if they have programs that can provide caregivers or volunteers that can sit with mom for a few hours.
Area Agency on Aging.
Contact Alzheimer's Association and find out what is available in the area.
Use moms assets to pay for a caregiver.
Contact a Hospice and see if mom would qualify for Hospice. You would get all the supplies and equipment that you need as well as a Nurse that would come every week and a CNA that would come 2 times a week to give mom a bath and order supplies.
Other than your brother I would leave it alone, it is not your niece's responsibility to watch your mom.
Stop GIVING them money and "helping" them (whatever that means). If they need money they can work for it, they can sit with your mom for a few hours $15.00 to 20.00 per hour with a 5 hour minimum.
You don't mention your moms finances, but maybe she should be placed and then you can manage her care and visit her as often as you like. Then you don't have to rely on others to step up to give you a break. It's one of those airplane suggestions.... put your own mask on first before you try to help others.
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