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Is it at all possible the joint is fine but the muscle has been overstretched, causing horrible pain spasms? There is a tendon, the Iliopsoas tendon, that can cause horrible pain after hip surgery, which is what happened to me. Some surgeons have had to go back in and release that tendon. Would the doc consider a trial of a muscle relaxer?
I feel so bad for your mom. And, yes, anticipating pain makes things worse, but frankly, I don’t blame her, if she’s hurting like I was. My pain was so unnecessary. If only the nurses and doc would have been willing to listen to me complaints of horrible pain.
Jane Brody, science writer for the NY Times was in excruciating pain after a knee replacement and was laughed off by her surgeon. It turned out she had a massive infection within her knee.
Please get your mother to a doctor and INSIST on imaging. Women get miserable health care; older women get worse.
Please advocate for her. Today.
Contact the PA, NP or ortho surgeon who performed the surgery and ask if she should be non weight bearing. This is critical. My mother experienced a similar situation; the therapist said she wasn't cooperating and discharge was discussed.
We contacted her surgeon, got a letter attesting to the need for non weight bearing status, and took it to the rehab facility and presented it at a status update meeting. In fact, the surgeon was angry that the therapist wasn't addressing this issue but was pushing for standing exercises.
We prevailed. The therapist was moved to another facility; a new therapist was provided; non weight bearing exercises were introduced, and Mom healed and got better.
HISTORY: Prior fracture status post repair, increasing pain.
Frontal view of the pelvis as well as AP and frog-leg images of left hip are
provided.
COMPARISON: September 29, 2019.
Bone mineralization is diminished. There is left-sided hip nail in place. No
new fracture. No evidence of hardware displacement. Pelvic ring is symmetric.
IMPRESSION: No new abnormality identified.
They said she can bear as much weight as possible. We are seeing very small changes as to how she moves with less screaming and moaning...she still seems afraid of the pain however...I pray her new therapy will help...
I pray that the pain subsides for her soon...
Please let us know how this works out.
Did you ask why she might be experiencing so much pain? Have they considered that there might be a pelvis fracture?
In your mom’s case I would not rule out fear and/or poor management of pain being a factor because it certainly was/is a component of my mom’s inability to walk. Another possible issue is quality of the facility she’s in. Prior to my mom’s recent transfer to her current outstanding nursing home she was terrified, depressed and mistreated. She was offered no encouragement to walk and wasn’t even given the required minimum number of physical therapy sessions. The longer she went without walking the worse her fear of falling became.
My advice is to address any fears surrounding falls and to check on pain medications she may be receiving. Although pain medication should be given with caution to the elderly, it sometimes does need to be given. In all 3 nursing homes my mom was in prior to the one she finally ended up in, they arbitrarily reduced or cut off her pain medication every chance they had—usually without even telling me although I’m the HC proxy.
Another issue I’ll raise as a potential factor is treatment she’s receiving at the nursing home. I had no idea how badly the elderly are being treated in nursing homes. I live in a major urban city and without exception all of the skilled care facilities were awful —It was just a matter of some being slightly less awful than others. If there’s any doubt about quality of the facility—follow up on it. What was supposed to be 30 minutes of physical therapy daily for my mom turned out in reality to be 10 to 15 minutes daily maybe 3-5 days a week with no additional exercises or encouragement to walk. Nursing notes documented what she SHOULD be receiving—not what actually took place. Maybe I experienced an extreme case but poor treatment at the facilities most definitely impacted my mom’s physical & mental condition. To end on a positive note, I’m her only family member and since we can’t afford private pay, I looked for the highest rated facility accepting Medicaid and moved her 5 hours away from where we lived. Despite considerable hardship to myself I’d say it’s been totally worth it. She describes it as like being in heaven or Disneyland and has already shown improvement. Although I sacrificed a lot to put her there I can now go to sleep with a smile on my face because it’s the happiest she’s been since even before her fall.
Whether my mom walks again or not doesn’t really matter anymore. Quality of life is everything and I believe my mom will reach her full potential now—regardless of what that turns out to be. She knows that she’s finally receiving adequate physical therapy and all the help that she requires and the result so far has been incredible to witness. She knew that she wasn’t receiving good care and it resulted in an obsession with her failure to walk. She still hopes to walk but no longer focuses on what she can’t do. Her days are now filled with things that she has enjoyed and succeeded in doing as well as the future things she looks forward to doing and learning. That’s all one can ask for really.
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