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Hopefully his daughter is his PoA (and you have one as well). Make sure all legal ducks are in a row for both of you. Consult with a Medicaid Planner for your state unless you are very well-off financially.
As long as he is cooperative and has decent health and mobility, you can probably continue as is for a while. Eventually he may begin yelliing for you continuously (this is called Shadowing) or wandering, which is dangerous. He may even become aggressive. The best you can do now is come to peace with the fact that you and daughter may need to change how and where he receives care. Be realistic and therefore flexible. There are many other posts on this forum about spousal caregiving. Just be aware that at 80, burnout or injury is a real possibility for you. I wish you much clarity and wisdom and peace in your hearts as you work with his daughter to provide realistic care solutions!
You will find many experiences to read about here. It sounds like you have a good support system in place for your partner. He and the daughter are lucky to have you. Be sure to take care of yourself and let her know when it is too much. Hugs
SO glad that his daughter is supportive. Does he have his affairs in order to give POA to someone in case he can't take care of things anymore? And a will, etc.?
My mom has been living with me and hubby for almost 7 years. Continues to slowly but steadily decline into dementia. It's hard. Try not to take anything he does or says personally.
More info on what you are dealing with will get you better advice than this.
Good luck.
I was sharing the boat I'm in.
I took care of my Ma and was very pleased she had passed in her sleep without pain or any medical problems...just have never dealt with anyone like him. It is an eye opener experience for me. Thank you for the response.