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Does it seem to you that he’s actively enjoying the life he’s living now because he’s in a familiar place?
I ask because until I read your comment about the “weeping” legs, I thought your reasoning was probably OK. But I’ve had some experience with this particular symptom, and whether he’s walking or not, this is so terribly serious and needs ongoing very specific care, and unless you can get full time services in to manage it I really feel afraid that no one will benefit from the situation he’s in now. Not him, not you…..
I’d actually hope that if he’s seen by a nurse or EMT thatTHEY would tell you that he should be given trained
help, or tell you that he’s OK as he is.
If his legs are open and oozing they can be magnets for all kinds of bad outcomes.
If you are fortunate enough to have a hospice site nearby, I hope it’s one of the best. My family has had such beautiful experiences with hospice. I so hope yours are the same.
Hugs and gentle landings…..
Once in bed, I’d be sneaky and grind up a GRAVOL and put it in a drink (smoothies work great, but so would coffee). GRAVOL is very safe, I even took them while pregnant.
If he won’t sit in his bed, I think funkygrandma’s idea about the lazy boy recliner another great idea, as you can easily raise the legs to that he’s more reclined, and better for his legs in a sleeping position.
I have a nurse coming tomorrow and I will ask her how hospice works and how he can qualify. The nurses sent me some supplies to clean his weeping legs but he won't keep the wrapping on. He gets delirious for days every time he falls as well. Which is making things very difficult.
Thanks so much. We do need some help at this point. And we want to keep him here since he doesn't have much time left.
And of course you can always get hospice involved now while he is still at your home. They will supply a hospital bed for him, along with all needed supplies, equipment, and medications, all covered 100% under dads Medicare. They will also have a nurse come once a week to start, and an aide to bathe him at least twice a week.
Wishing you and your dad the very best.