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I hope that your relationship improves with your sister, with or without our help.
Treating your suffering sister with a cheerful and upbeat attitude may be the polar opposite of what she NEEDS from you right now. Try asking her how you can help her, and go from there. Don't think about things from YOUR perspective, but from hers instead. Your version of 'supportive talk' may not be HER version of support or what she needs in her life right now. She may need you to commiserate with her at this point in time and tell her how horrible it must be what she's going through. She may need you to cry with her, like I did with my sister when her DH passed away unexpectedly. I don't know, but neither do you. Find out. That's my suggestion.
Don't ask US, ask HER.
You are happy, she is not, so she feels better bringing you down.
Sad but, so true.
I would limit the number and length of calls. If she asks you why, tell her that you only make her mad and you don't want to add to her challenges.
Being so far apart and the ages, I doubt if u can go see her. You know some people have certain expectations of someone else. Sometimes those expectations have nothing to do with reality or something there is no way you could ever do.
What specifically are you saying that angers her? Think carefully over your last conversations. Is she angry when you call, or when you mention specific issues, such as your apparent good health as described in your profile?
Have you shared your feelings with her, that you're concerned your positive attitude isn't shared, or might be resented?
I think you need to focus in on the specific issues to find out what's provoking her and how you can, or can't address it. If she has more complex issues that can't be successfully addressed or controlled, that certainly could be an issue, as could resentment.
Do you think that your apparent better health is cause for resentment?
And Lizbitty's advice; it's good, to the point, and compassionate. And Alva offers another different but helpful perspective.
I don't know if this could apply, but when my sister's cancer metastasized, I quit my job to take care of her, temporarily moved in with her, took her to chemo and rads, shopped for her and helped with her dogs, and worked with her friends to ensure that she had coverage when she needed it.
We were both in our 50s though, so I was young and healthy enough to help out as much as I could. And I don't regret one minute of it; I'd do it again if I had to.