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I am assuming, perhaps wrongly, that your wife is in a stage similar to my husband where although he can see that it is dark outside if he thinks to look, that does not relate in his head to bed or sleep.
I am also assuming that a sign on the wall or a prominent clock may sometimes make sense to her, but usually they are either not noticed or look like letters or numbers without meaning.
I am assuming that at times, or maybe all the time, your wife can identify a number on a clock as an ‘8’, but am or pm mean nothing. Neither does the fact that 9 is later than 8 or that 12 can be noon (light outside) or midnight (dark outside).
You can try taking away her clothes but you will probably not be able to make her understand the reasoning behind it and it may make her angry and she may start to hide them or fight you.
Nighttime medication may help. I haven’t tried that yet but it’s the next step for me. And medication comes with its own set of problems.
I don’t mean to sound hopeless, but I am mostly concerned about your well-being. I am younger than you and it is wearing me down quickly. I am mid-way in this process too.
I urge you to keep asking questions on this forum at every stage. The answers will not all fit for your situation but they may help you survive each stage as it comes and make decisions in your own best interest as well as your wife’s. This is really hard.
But my concern is that she seems confused about when and where she is. Hallucinations or imagined phone calls, and worrying about getting the kids to school, must have her really grasping to figure out what is real.
Talk to her doctor. See what he advises and ask about medication to calm her before bed.
This is more than 'just' waking you up in the middle of the night.'
She needs to see an MD ASAP and be evaluated.
Ask about medication.
You do not address other behaviors or concerns.
I would presume there are other things going on that are causing you distress, concern and/or loss of sleep. Perhaps you need to change the sleeping arrangements IF you feel confident leaving her alone to roam around in the middle of the night. Although she may be-come distressed looking for you.
Visit TEEPA SNOW'S website. She is one of the country's leading experts on dementia. Read her books and watch her You Tubes.
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We did this for over 10 years.
You want to make sure to use the glycinate version to prevent loose stools.
Best of luck with a difficult situation.
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