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People with dementia usually progress to the point where they are not safe left alone. I think it would take someone there with him to ensure he spends more time up and active. Golf is awesome! How many days a week does he do that? Is there a chance it could be increased? Another way to keep him safe and occupied while you work is an Adult Day Health Program. They usually pick the person up and return them home.
How to keep him up and occupied is one questions. Another part of it is why? We instinctively feel that up, awake, at least a little active is better for our loved ones. I don't know if there have been any studies on that, though. Maybe a good period before bedtime is the best you can expect at this stage of his decline. Cherish it!
It is really hard to distinguish among depression, typical dementia symptoms, and boredom. (Or any combination of these.) More golf and/or a day program would help remove boredom from the equation. When you are home with him in the evenings, does he show any other signs of depression? What is he like on weekends?
My advice is to have him evaluated by a geriatric psychiatrist. They would have the expertise to diagnose depression and to treat it, as well as to advise you about what to expect with his cognitive decline.
I asked my cousin if she wrote notes for her mother who had extreme short term memory loss. Yup. Mom reads the note, folds in into a tiny square and puts it in a pocket. Notes work well for people who don't have cognitive impairments. Not so much (as you've discovered) for folks who do.
Keep in touch here. Many of us have gone/are going through experiences like yours. At the very least you'll feel less alone!