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Bring in the help he will need after you are divorced, so that he has care.Then you can divorce, if necessary.
How to do that?
The people here can help you with that.
I agree with JoAnn that it will help us if you can explain the timeline a bit. Could you put these events in time order for us, do you think, please?
Decision to divorce
Separation
Accident while tree-felling
Rehab? and final prognosis?
Discharge to your home on a temporary basis
There are, of course, lots of other questions such as how old you both are, how long since the accident, how much improvement your husband might hope to make with support and physical therapy, etc. etc. etc.
But for you to be clear about what *you* want and what *you* are aiming for, perhaps it would be best to think about how long you expect to have your husband living in your home and what you would like your own situation to be in, say, a year's time.
I had thought your issues were in the past. Prayers for you.
We’ve been married for 43 years. He never treated me all that well, but provided me with a good life and 2 great kids. I only worked because I wanted to, not because I had to. What I do for him now, I do because of that. It’s not in my nature to abandon him now because I know if I did send him to a facility he’d be dead within a year, if that long.
Take back control of your life and yourself. Do as the others have suggested and do things you enjoy, maybe go back to what you were doing before his accident. It does make you a more peaceful person. Don’t turn help away, even if it’s just a friend who will come in and sit with him for a while. It does help.
I’m sorry for this tough circumstance you are in.
Did your husband have occupational therapy? Is it possible that he needs more therapy? Is there a senior center he could attend where he could gain more independence?
Could you volunteer or look for a job to get you out of the house and create a separation which would perhaps allow him to better accept his new status?
It may be that you have to set boundaries on what you are willing to do before he takes the initiative to do more for himself.
care so you can have a break. And are you still looking to follow through with
divorce? I'm so sorry that you've gotten stuck like this, hopefully others will have
some suggestions to help you figure a way forward without losing yourself in the
process.