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Sounds like your sister is begging for help. Instead of hoping she can be legally forced to continue to burden the responsibility maybe the sisters could realise she is struggling and figure out a way to help her .
I am the sister who is left to deal, and my sister does not realise how hard it is since she has chosen to never experience what I have.
May I ask, why is it you do not want to help her?
Sounds to me like she's tired of being the one responsible for everything at the cost of her own home life. If you and the other sisters aren't willing to share responsibility for mom's care, then it is time for a family meeting to decide the next step for mom.
Have you and your sisters considered helping out with Mom's care?
Burnout is horrible, my advice to you would be for you to be more concerned with your sisters health.
And help her deal with this, no matter if your sister gets mom placed somewheres.
The stress of caregiving, tears family's apart. Trust I know.
When we should be working together, for whats best for mom, we end up , with horrible disfuction and anger .
Best of luck.
They can use their POA to either place the Elder in a facility, or hire caregivers to come to the home, paid for by the Elder's money. They can sell the Elder's home and use the profit to pay for the Elder's medical costs.
Being "responsible for finances and health decisions" DOES NOT mean the POA also must function as a full time Caregiver/Unpaid Slave.
Apparently none of you sisters will offer any help. It's already hard enough for the POA to deal with finances, doctor appts, coordinating with various doctors, ordering supplies, buying food, keeping the Elder clean and fed, and making sure the Elder's bills get paid.
A POA doesn't generally get paid for all they do, either. Have you ever worked 40-60 hours a week for anyone for FREE?
Act on the Principal's benefit
Pay Bills
Manage Properties (including legally allowed to sell the property)
Handling tax issues
When Health Care POA as well -they are responsible for making medical decisions
As other's have said, in no way is the POA required to provide hands on care. Their only responsibility in that area is to ensure that the principal is cared for.
Being the primary caregiver is difficult. Being the SOLE caregiver is incredibly stressful -especially when there are siblings who are willing to offer opinions but not help.
If your sister decides to no longer provide hands on care for your mother, her responsibility is to either find her a safe home or let APS know that there is a vulnerable adult living on their own.
POA does not indicate that she is expected to resign herself to full time caregiver. And she can (and probably should) find appropriate care, so that she can also maintain her own life. While she can't insist that other family members participate in care, other family members cannot insist that she provide the care either.
What she doesn't have to do is involve family in the decision to move mom either. Out of courtesy, a POA can involve family - but ultimately if that POA is invoked, she doesn't have to consult with other family members at all.
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