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Sorry there is discord between your sister and you.
Does the Realtor have Docusign? That way, sis could digital sign the document(s) to be able to take care of the house.
She would need her Executrix documentation to handle the rest of mom's Estate, (if everything else is not spelled out, who gets what, etc and if there are any outstanding debts)
Good luck. I hope you can all put your differences aside to be able to deal with what needs to be done.
We are heading for a horrible chaotic crisis, BUT after ditching my FOG, I know that it is their problem, not mine. And because I have walked this journey, with ZERO interest, or expectation, in inheriting anything, it will not matter to me, if they take forever, to put our parents affairs to rest. I will step in and let them know, they need to respect our mom and dad, and GET IT DONE…but not because I need inheritance money or my share in a home, or land, or anything. I expect to get nothing.
Our mom and dad did this to us, choosing to give ALL power and control to their youngest, “chosen one” daughter, who never left home, has been in the middle of our parent’s lives, since the beginning, privileged and protected, in a way, that would have not been best for me. Very thankful I got the young, broke, brave parents, who had little time, to helicopter parent the two oldest, who remain sane, at age 63 & 65! Enabling helps no one. The two youngest enabled our mom into a wheelchair, doing for her, every chore, cause mom preferred not to do anything herself. She likes being waited on, and it started when she was early 50’s.
Like always, I’m drifting into other complicated matters, cause this journey is tough, filled with grief, anger, hurt, and it lasts forever. If you would have told younger Deb, 30 years ago, her mom would still be alive now, I would have laughed. Now I understand, our parents could be around for a long time, as the many pills they take, seem to work. No quality of life, isolated in a three bed condo, by a daughter, who was changed during Covid years, but those pills keep them alive.
Our dad looks sad and hollow, nothing to look forward to, except holding his wife’s hand, cause she is worse off, and requires him to be right there, for her mental well being. Our dad used to be a very active, robust man, now all he has is his recliner, and windows to a world, he is no longer a part of, and he misses his old life, in a way our mom no longer can. The frustrations you feel now, almost look like a cake walk to me, cause you are at least close, to ending this miserable journey, just a matter of paperwork now. Good luck to you, and hoping your sister gets it together. I chose to never ever fight mine, cause my
parents did this to us. Not treating their daughters equally, not trusting us, so for those reading, try to give your kids more credit, to do the right thing. When siblings are treated differently, it hurts.
Not near the end still have my father but he no longer owns the house.
and also she needs to open up the account for my mothers estate.
Will she respond to emails or texts?
What's that saying.. when you are at the end of your rope.. tie a knot & hang on!
I swear you are living my future 🙁
The sis could be overwhelmed, cannot get her * together to do what must be done.
You don't know the reason for the check out.. but you are not her therapist. How long is reasonable to wait?
A friend of mine went through similar. Sib not ready to sell the dec'd parent's home. Understood leaving a home empty is not practical. Risks thieves & vandels, reduces value the longer it is left etc yet not emotionally ready. My friend had a time limit as needed to return OS.
So gently asked. Then straight up gave options. Do you want out? Do you want to give this role up & give to another sibling? In that case, the reluctant sib found extra support & was able to proceed.
Have a think about a timeline. How long do you think is reasonable before moving this along? Also think carefully about who will make contact to move it forward. I am pretty sure I would vote for a third party to make contact - to stay more neutral & avoid being cast as the bad guy/gal.
I don’t know exactly the criteria , timeline , or how it’s done. Perhaps the lawyer sends her a warning letter first , to try to make her step up , idk .
Sorry you are going through this .