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So many details will have to be worked out. I’m sure this is very stressful.
From reading here on the forum, when your dad has to go in the NH, his income will be separated from your moms but she, as the community spouse, will be eligible for a portion of his income.
Please see an elder law attorney who is an expert for the Medicaid rules in your parents state. It is my understanding that enough of dads income will go to mom so as not to leave her impoverished, if that portion is enough to pay her ALF, I’m not sure.
If it is best for mom to stay in the ALF for now, then she would be able to do that if their state law allows, I have never read this particular question before. It is usually an issue when one is staying in the community in their own home and the other goes into care. Neither am I sure what happens should your dad pass before your mom and his SS and pension stops.
Many ALF do not take Medicaid.
Having them both together I’m sure had many benefits. Let us know what you find out. There will be others who will need this information. I know it must be heartbreaking to separate them. To qualify for a NH with Medicaid, one must meet both financial and medical requirements. If mom doesn’t need skilled care, she would not qualify for Medicaid. Perhaps you would want to have an understanding with the NH you move dad to that mom could move in with him when she passes that threshold should it occur.
There is also the issue of having too much income to qualify for Medicaid but the attorney would be able to help you navigate through all this.
If your mom needs care, she might just have to go in the nursing home with dad. Maybe they could share a room and still be together? Knowing nothing about her, I can see many reasons why this might not be workable but also could be a possibility.
After having my mom live with me and hubby for 7 years, I would advise you not to consider moving mom in with you. It can be very hard and damage your relationship.
Educate yourself by checking your state’s Medicaid web site and make sure she isn’t ignored in his application process. Consult an elder law attorney knowledgeable about Medicaid if necessary, but be ready to ask intelligent questions.
Could she also qualify for Medicaid? If so can she transition to it at the AL?
https://codes.ohio.gov/ohio-administrative-code/rule-5160:1-6-01.1
https://www.ohiobar.org/member-tools-benefits/practice-resources/practice-library-search/practice-library/section-newsletters/senior-lawyer-guidebook/long-term-care-and-medicaid-a-very-brief-overview/
The system is broken. I would also suggest speaking to an elder care attorney, as others mentored, or an elder care hotline at least if your state has such resources.
Some places actually use the term " navigator" to help families and patients do just that, navigate a broken, greedy system fraught with many potholes. Good luck !
Get professional help ...you may try calling your local senior services or agency on aging services for potential referrals. If they are already in a facility you may be able to utilize a facility resource ( social worker or other " navigator" professional, but don't count on it ). Unfortunately one has to be a strong advocate not only for the patients
( family members in care) but also an advocate for oneself. Educate oneself as much as possible...
Practice good self care !
Medicaid rules can be a little different in each state and vary how the non-NH person gets to keep money instead of all of it following the person who needs the NH care. AL usually is not covered by Medicaid and, in most cases, self pay all the way. It is very possible that mom won't have enough funds left, after the amt that follows dad to the NH.
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