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Do what you're comfortable doing. Because she says, "Jump!" doesn't mean you have to say "How high?" That your siblings run to her side when she's having fake heart problems reinforces her behavior. It's the pay-off she gets for acting that way. You are not obligated to do that. Create boundaries and stick to them. Middle of the night phone calls are not OK. Don't answer the phone. Do not go running over there in the middle of the night unless her house is on fire and to make sure it actually is have her put a firefighter on the phone to confirm.
You don't have to do anything you don't want to do. She uses guilt to get your attention. That's not how mature, healthy adults act. And if she's going to act like that don't you feel guilty for not buying into it. She's unreasonable so when you respond with reason it makes her angry. Too bad for her. You can't control how she acts or responds. All you can do is control how YOU act and respond.
Boundaries!
Put yourself into your Mom's shoes for a few minutes. Imagine if you could no longer drive to the mall to meet your friends.... speaking of friends, bet most of your Mom's friends have either moved or passed away. You wake up with aches and pains. Your eyesight isn't as good and you are slowly losing your hearing. And heck, nothing taste good except sweets. You feel lost. Living alone can be down right scary, thus the panic calls.
And what happens, you and your siblings are feeling exhausted and frustrated, through no fault of your own. Not fair, is it?
You and your siblings need to have a meeting without Mom. Time to stop enabling Mom to continue to live in her home. Time for you all to start saying "sorry, I can't possibly do that".
Try to gets Mom's attention to really nice Independent Living facilities where she would have her own apartment. She can use the equity in her house [hopefully she doesn't have a Reverse Mortgage]. She will have weekly linen service, weekly housekeeping, and 3 meals in the restaurant style dining area... and be around people of her own generation.
Mom will never be alone, as the Staff are just one pendent click away. It could be Mom doesn't know about these places, I know my Dad never heard of them before, and he loved the place he moved into.
Food for thought.