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(I want to add that my mom spent her final 2 years unable to stand, mostly unable to move at all in fact, so don't make the mistake of thinking that you can tough it out because her time is short)
I had to hire an aide to come every morning to transfer my husband from his hospital bed to the commode, as I just couldn't do it myself. He was completely bedridden though. If you hire an aide, they can not only transfer her to the commode and change her, but can also give her a bath while she is in the bed so you don't have to worry about getting her into the bathroom and shower. Might make your life a little easier.
And if possible, try making all of her Dr's appt.s by phone or on Zoom, so she doesn't have to leave the house. and of course if things just get to be too much, then it's time to be looking into placing her in the appropriate facility. Best wishes.
A Sit to Stand worked well with my Husband but he would stand so with the Sit to Stand there needs to be some leg strength.
A Hoyer Lift would be what you should use for someone that is not mobile.
Has she been evaluated as to why there is a problem with standing.
Is it the knees?
Is it that she has lost muscle strength in her legs?
Is it that the dementia has reached a point where she can no longer walk?
If it is a matter of strength in her legs PT might help but it will be exercises that you will have to do with her along with regular PT sessions.
If it is her knees is it pain that is preventing her from standing? She would NOT be a candidate for surgery at this point. (dementia, surgery and subsequent rehab do not go well together)
Helping someone up after they have gone down is potentially dangerous for both the person that is down and the person helping them up. Knowing how to guide someone as they are falling is also important to prevent injury to both you and the person falling.
It is possible that at this point the safest place for mom is in bed.
Bed baths are going to be safer than showers.
Changing her in bed is safer than getting her to the toilet.
That was a tough decision I made when caring for my Husband. Getting him up and dressed and into a wheelchair made it more "normal" but it was not safe. Add to that the length of time he was sleeping he was just more comfortable in bed. You do need to prepare for that as well. A good alternating pressure mattress, changing position at least every 2 hours, lots of wedges and pillows for propping.