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*As long as possible*
What does *possible* look like?
What does the situation look like now?
Unsafe eating. Unsafe meds. Falls risk +++ Sanitary issues.
Yes imho hire Home Care. It may extend how long *possible* is.
With more 'eyes' better routine of meds & meals may even help the bowel issues 🤞
It may also help bridge the gap into acceptance of the new realities coming. It is a HUGE acceptance the family must make.
(In my lot there is someone home alone, although safe with meds & competent, also incontinent, poor eating, frequent falls. Home care visits have definately extended the *possible* time at home but to me it is way into overtime now. Denial seems to be the sticking point & it will probably only change when an absolute crises or major injury occurs).
Home care now. Then start planning fro the future.
Her primary care is aware of the diarrhea problem, but mostly tells me about how to treat it, not prevent it. I'll talk to him again.
We'll look into home care services in her area.
A trip to the primary is needed to address the diarrhea. Ask about putting her on a probiotic. Her regular prescriptions should be reviewed.
My mom eats way too much ice cream during the short times she is alone and it brings on diarrhea.
Everyone would love to 'age in place' and/or 'stay at home as long as possible' but it's no longer safe for your mother to do so. At least not alone, anyway. Home care tends to be more expensive than Assisted Living, so figure out what her finances are and go from there. Don't put it past her to start wandering out the front door one of these days, either, and that's when things get really ugly. This is not to scare you; just to tell you how things truly ARE when ALZ/dementia are at play. Learn all you can about the condition and what to expect at Alz.org
Wishing you the best of luck finding the right care situation for your mother. I know how difficult the whole scenario truly is. Sending you a hug and a prayer for peace.
Homecare isn't more expensive or even as much as AL is if it's planned right.
The average AL facility cost in my state is about 6 thousand a month.
If a private live-in caregiver was hired at a grand a week, a family could have up to 2 thousand a month in savings. Give the live-in weekends off even by having a family member stay at the mother's house or taking the mother to their home.
Yes you should have caregivers that come in daily.
Yes they will take care of helping her in the bathroom
They will do light housecleaning
They can help with making meals.
If living alone is a must then you should place cameras so that you can monitor what she is doing and where she is.
She should also have some sort of tracker on her so that if she wanders out of the house you will be aware of it and can locate her.
Many Memory Care and AL will allow a resident to bring a dog IF they are able to care for it otherwise a paid dog walker could come a few times a day and take the dog out. (small / toy dogs can be litter box trained.)