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You made a passing reference to Seroquel, which is used a LOT in psych cases, as it is a pretty good anxiety drug AND sleeping med. I've taken it for years. Not for anxiety but for sleep. You're opposed to her taking it? There are a myriad of anti anxiety meds that can be tried. Don't just let them throw and one and done dose of ANYTHING at her and never follow up with appropriate monitoring.
What's her dose on that? what else does she take?
She needs to be a in pysch ward 24/7 and watched much more closely. I doubt she has the wherewithal to actually take her own life, but the 'cutting' is a symptom of other mental deficits. Yes, with schizophrenia, almost anything it possible/normal. All Drs can do is treat the symptoms.
Have you talked to her Dr? Have you spoken with her CG's at the NH? Have you witnessed any of this abuse yourself? Not to say mom isn't unhappy or trying to hurt herself, but this all sounds really suspect. I wouldn't believe a word she said.
Have you ever talked to the LO's of some of the other residents of the NH? See if they also are having these abusive kinds of behavior from the CG's there.
How much time do YOU actually spend with mom? And how clear headed is her thinking? She could be making up every single thing she says--don't go into the facility ready for a fight--get your facts straight and then calmly discuss your concerns about mom.
You get more flies with honey than with vinegar.
Have you witnessed someone hitting her, or are you taking her word for it?
If the latter, you have to know she is an unreliable reporter with her severe mental illness.
You need to report, yes.
Of all the things that you mention, do know that bedsores are taken very seriously (likely why they are trying to hide this) due to possible licensure problems for facilities that report very many of them.
This all sounds dreadful, and it sounds as though your mother is extremely challenged both physically and mentally, and a very difficult case to care for. I am so very sorry. There are so few good answers in a case this troubling.