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If your mom stays at home and you or brother have the idea of hiring home health care with money from that reverse mortgage, you have no idea what you're getting into. Unreliable caregivers who don't show up, people in and out of the house at all hours (because 24/7 care requires that), or a live-in who gets paid for 24 hours even if she is sleeping. Then you'll need relief caregivers, bringing the count up to three caregivers in all. It's very hard on the patient as well as the family that has to supervise all this movement. Plus cleaners, food shopping, cooking for all these people, visitors, making sure the medicines arrive, planning so hospice people get scheduled, as well as OT or PT and clergy. This is not some sweet family fantasy where all are gathered around gently fading mom's bed holding her hand and assuring her that she is loved. It's a harried, confusing, exhausting and difficult venture. Which is why care in a facility with professionals is so much better.
Reverse mortgages are generally not a good idea. People don't understand them very well. All they know is that they get a lump of money, tra la la. It can eventually be a rude awakening. Mom's house will need to be sold anyway. Get it over with so mom can be in a place where she has the care, socialization and recreation she needs.
As your brother is POA, you don't have much to say about this. He'll do what he wants. You may have to fade out of the picture and let him screw things up on his own. Advice: Fade out totally. Don't do a bunch of caregiving work, and DO NOT ever take mom into your own home. That's not your job.
If sadly your Mom should pass, or move out of her house before the Reverse Mortgage loan is used up, then the loan is payable right away. Anyway that is what the rules were a few years back, some rules may have changed.
My Dad sold his house, put the equity into a safe fund where he was getting interest, and used the fund to pay for Independent Senior living. He said he wished he would have moved years earlier. Then later down the road, he moved within the same senior living into "Memory Care".