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Either A. Stay Home.
With 'village' helpers to their home to assist, or
B. Move Homes.
Move into a 'village' that provides assistance eg AL/NH.
If you don't want to consider option B, choose A.
Start with up to date health & physical assessments by Doctor & PT. See exactly what the needs are. Research what services exist in your area, the costs, availability etc. Put your Manager hat on & assemble your team.
Hopefully with more PT your Mother CAN walk again.. ?
But sadly at some point walking is a skill we lose. The right equipment & many hands are then needed.
How does this sound?
I highly doubt your mother is 60 years old with 'dementia' and refusing to do PT or get out of bed, wearing 'diapers' etc. It sounds to me like YOU are 60 and trying to figure out how to care for a bed bound mother who's in her 80s at least.
Speak to the social worker at the rehab SNF mom is in right now, and see what their recommendations are. You are best off going into this situation with your eyes wide open, knowing that your every waking moment will be devoted to caregiving if you bring her home. Only you can say whether or not you're equipped to do such a thing.
I suggest you read this 33 page booklet (a free download) which has THE best information ever about managing dementia and what to expect with an elder who's been diagnosed with it.
Understanding the Dementia Experience, by Jennifer Ghent-Fuller
https://www.smashwords.com/books/view/210580
Jennifer is a nurse who worked for many years as an educator and counsellor for people with dementia and their families, as well as others in caring roles. She addresses the emotional and grief issues in the contexts in which they arise for families living with dementia. The reviews for her books are phenomenal b/c they are written in plain English & very easy to read/understand. Her writings have been VERY helpful for me.
The full copy of her book is available here:
https://www.amazon.com/Thoughtful-Dementia-Care-Understanding-Experience/dp/B09WN439CC/ref=sr_1_2?crid=2E7WWE9X5UFXR&keywords=jennifer+ghent+fuller+books&qid=1657468364&sprefix=jennifer+ghent%2Caps%2C631&sr=8-2
The book/article will give you a better understanding of what's in store for your mother with her dementia, and therefore, what's in store for YOU if you take her in to live with you.
Best of luck.
"I am caring for my mother Lisa , who is 60 years old, living at home with age-related decline, anxiety, arthritis, broken hip, cancer, depression, diabetes, heart disease, incontinence, lung disease, mobility problems, and sleep disorder."
Is she really only 60 years old? Or is that your age? The answer will make an important difference in what guidance you are given.