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Encourage mom to say no and stick to it. Encourage her to make sure the aid is doing these things.
Having an aide come to the house on a schedule, and having your mom leave the apartment while the aide is there with your FIL can help a lot.
This may be a short term solution before moving him to assisted living/memory care so I'd get started on that research now. You can see how elder care can be a full time job!
More importantly it doesn’t matter what the truth is from your perspective or the evaluators/aids perspective, if your MIL says it’s too much for her, it is too much for her (IMHO anyway). Try consulting with his primary or whatever doctor seems to be best versed in elderly care, about how to figure out what resources and options are available. You could use your MIL healthcare team for this too but I would caution you not to cross that fine line of including them both but taking the onus off of your MIL don’t put her in to position of having to say I can’t do this or that for my husband at least in front of him if you can help it. Might even be better if someone from her medical team is the one setting this in motion if you will and saying this is too much caregiving for her health, take the ownership out of everyone’s hands. You obviously have a great relationship with your in laws but it still might be wise for you to stay in the background as much as possible facilitating all this behind the scenes but letting their son and any siblings if possible, be the one initiating conversations about this, including you for sure but at least on the surface leading it. Good for you hearing MIL, looking out for both of them and trying to be proactive here, keep up the great work!
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