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Yet people continued to post, offer suggestions, and try to help, not really understanding because the situation just wasn't clarified.
Now in a rambling James Joyce style stream of consciousness post you claim that 'Everyone of u are wrong …". Well, I think we were wrong, to try to understand, to try to help.
I really do need to address one particular "sentence": "she makes us go bum money and walk to the store for beer everyday". Are you serious? If you allow yourself to be manipulated and dominated, don't accuse someone else of "making" you do something. All you have to do is say "'No!"
Don't worry about our trying to help you any more. I suspect I'm not the only one who will continue to be "wrong". But I won't devote any more time to being "wrong." There are other posts which are coherent, and posters who are appreciative of time spent trying to help them.
I wish you and your family the best in sorting out this situation, which is still confusing to me.
And Tacy, kudos to you for calling the shots as you see them! Well said!
I have had people close to me, including my oldest child, who have struggled with bipolar disorder. Treatment is nothing to be ashamed of. Just know it could be that MIL is worried about both of you if she sees you aren't eating, sleeping or thinking clearly. I know when my daughter has been manic or depressed, I just wanted her to get better so she would be herself again and I would know she was okay. Hugs to you - I hope you will be okay too and make sure you take care of you.
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/i-want-my-husband-to-move-on-our-own-but-his-parents-keep-threatening-me-and-him-any-advice-439446.htm
Joe's Wife, we can't offer accurate suggestions if critical parts of the situation are omitted. Why does she feel that being bipolar could contribute to the need for alleged jail time? Are you both in compliance with your doctor's instructions for your meds? If so, perhaps you could ask your doctor to intervene and either call MIL or write her and advise her that you're under treatment and she has no authority to meddle.
If she threatening you, then you need to get a lawyer and you Drs involved. Is she threatening you in any way? Is she coming after you for poor parenting or poor mental health maintenance or money management? For if it is, attempting to obtain a Medical POA is an unusual way to go about it, and Nobody can force you to sign over POA to them.
Does your in law understand what a POA Is? Is your husband likely to sign this, giving his mother authority to make medical decisions for him if he is not able?
A POA is assigned. You or your husband would see a lawyer and ask that a particular person be assigned as your representative in case you are not able to handle your finances or medical decisions. No one can go to a lawyer and say "I want POA over this person."
Your in-laws maybe able to have POA drawn up but until you and your husband sign the document assigning them then its null and void. In other words its not legal. Also, this should all be done in a lawyers office witnessed and notarized. If you are uncomfortable or don't understand what is going on tell the lawyer. He should not force you to sign anything that you don't understand. I really think you, personally, need a family member or someone to help you understand the process. Like we have said, no one can "get" a POA on you and if in-laws are trying I wouldn't want them having any controll over me.
It's common (and a good thing) to plan as you get older and have an attorney draw up paperwork as to who you want to manage your health care and financial decisions in case you are unable to make those decisions for yourself. Of course, it's important to discuss these things with children or potential appointees beforehand.
Did they say what the POA is for? You and hubby (or whomever is designated) would have to agree to it, and would have the option to decline.
It is up to YOU to sign her on as POA. I really don't see why you would pick HER when you have a husband who would know better of what you would want for your last days when you're dying (like in 60 years!).
A POA is ONLY effective if you can't speak for yourself (stroke, dementia, coma, etc.). Your husband would be the likely POA, as you would be for him. I would tell your MIL that you have changed your minds and want to be each other's POA's.
The fact that you both probably won't need to use this for another 50-60 years, makes me wonder "WHY" MIL wants to be involved. I smell a rat here!
NO, she can NOT make you do anything you don't want to do. PLEASE do some research and look up Power of Attorney. She definitely has NO power to make you leave each other. I would stay away from her suggestions (and from her too.).
Your sentence, "Can she make us leave each other?" makes me very uncomfortable. Is she trying to separate you two? Well, she can't do it that way.
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/Enacted-439417.htm?orderBy=recent&page=1#comment870268
If she's drafted an agreement, the two of you need to see an attorney ASAP, and stop this unauthorized action.