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These horrible illnesses cannot be fixed or cured. You can only try to be supportive as possible. Easier said than done. Nothing you can do will make him happy.
All I can suggest is prepare yourself. You will need a job again afterward to survive. I don't know what I'd say when he talks wanting to die. Mine wanted to live so bad instead.
Medication is all I can think of.
Please take care of yourself, I'm sure that is the last thing on your mind right now. But you need to try. 😞
You can’t make him happy. No doubt dementia is way worse for them (until a certain point)… I’d be depressed, sad and angry about it too most likely.
Look into joining an in person support group in your area, getting out with friends, and not allowing YOUR life to fall apart in the process of dealing with your husband's condition. If you have faith, join a church and seek counsel from the clergy or look into therapy. Don't let grief consume you.
Best of luck with a difficult situation.
It would be worthwhile to get friendly with the staff at the MC and to talk to the admins about using your husband as a "helper" so that he's not hanging out with those of less ability than him. Does the facility have any activities or events? Encourage him to go or go with him (and then exit before the event is over so he is distracted to avoid sadness).
I'm so sorry for these circumstances. May you receive peace in your heart. Please make your own self and health a priority and do lots of self-care!
What is there to say to our loved one? Basically "I understand; I would feel the same. We just don't have that choice, so we have to get on with this day".
Don't negate his feelings. Allow him to mourn his losses.
For my brother--as it happens he got sepsis and DID die after 1 1/2 years and without further losses. I was very glad for him.
I would consult with hubby's MD to see if he can try a mild anti depressant. In the case of a friend in TX her mother, who disengaged and became non verbal, almost without reaction, she was put on mild cannabis. And while she still doesn't know her family she is content, smiling, eating.
Short of those things I simply don't have an answer. Dr. Laura says that "not everything can be fixed" and in the area of dementia she couldn't be more correct. Listen to hubby, let him know you mourn his losses with him. I would join FEN (50.00 membership); 866-654-9156 and www.finalexitnetwork.org. )
Right to die laws are progressing. It is good to stay informed.