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Have you tried removing all of his regular underwear?
If he insists on being incontinent without protection in your home, is it time to consider placing him?
Gena / Touch Matters
It is manufactured with a heavy sewn in padded insert, and as long as he is willing to “change his pants” fairly frequently, they may work for a period of time.
If using them is combined with a adult sized super absorbent collection “pad” that adheres to fabric, the double use of both may help you to keep him cleaner and easier to manage.
Be aware though, that these situations rarely improve, and often progress to being much worse over a short period of time.
Hope you are making arrangements for relief coverage to allow you to give yourself respite time as his caregiver.
There are absorbent underwear that do not need pads, or pads can be added.
I would then begin to tranistion from "regular" underwear to the disposable pull up type. (Unless doing the laundry for the reusable ones is not a problem for you)
The washable underwear might be alright as long as it is urine incontinence but when he becomes bowel incontinent then the disposable ones are so much easier to deal with.
In his 50's this is going to be a long road make things as easy as possible for yourself.
disposal underwear.
That is what they are.
The words you use matter to the person needing to - or wearing them.
We all want to maintain our personal dignity.
In part, I would encourage your husband to talk to you - share how he feels about these things. He must feel embarrassed and/or humiliated, and angry. Whatever he feels, encourage him to 'get it out.' This will ease and hopefully support him changing his feelings / association about wearing DISPOSAL UNDERWEAR.
I would like to delete (adult) diapers from everyone's vocabulary.
Although, like everything else, awareness is a process through personal experience and education.
Let us know how it goes. (No pun intended).
Gena / Touch Matters
We began with the pads in his regular underwear.
I then got my husband to agree to using briefs when we left the house in case a bathroom was not easily accessible, or in our case if I could not find a family bathroom where I could assist him.
Later I asked him to wear them overnight to minimize having so much laundry.
Eventually he may have even decided for himself to wear them all the time even though some days he is still only "semi" incontinent.
FYI, I did not get rid of all of his underwear because as the Pandemic showed, we could easily have a time that disposable products become back ordered. I also bought a stash of inexpensive wash cloths that could be used in his underwear and be washed instead of disposable briefs and/or pads if they become unavailable.
Being a caregiver during the Pandemic made me more aware of a lot of ways providing good care can be challenged when there are shortages not only of basic needs but special needs even more so.
TRANQUILITY is the brand of incontinence products have found to be the best.
Sounds like you found an answer to the problem by replacing hubbies regular underwear with Depends. You can also try the new incontinence underwear on Amazon recommended to you. You may also want to pick up some chuck pads to put down on the furniture in case of leakage.
https://a.co/d/0n4brlY (incontinence underwear)
https://a.co/d/1oAk9Mm (chuck pads)
Best of luck!
In lending the background of NASA space technology to her Dad, that astronauts wear Maximum Absorbency Garments (MAG) under their spacesuits during long stretches of time she was able to convince her skeptical Dad to wear "astronaut underwear".
I'm continually amazed by the importance of communication in caregiving.
There are products out there that mimic NASA's MAGS.
Best of Luck.
And, doesn't support or help the woman asking us - reaching out to us for support. DO realize this woman is married to this man - and she is in their home, too. If the laundry doesn't get done, it is a situation that affects her too. Being flippant in responding here doesn't help anyone.
Although I DID think of this woman getting a caregiver / housekeeper in JUST to do the laundry. It is the very short response to a much broader need/issue.
It doesn't address her husband's feelings about needing these personal hygiene supplies, and his physical changes to need them.