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Do a Google search and see if you can find one in your area. If not, contact a psychiatric facility and ask if they can recommend someone who specializes in these areas for a referral.
If there is a social services team in his present situation, ask them to help in your research too.
The sedation and confinement may be the only TEMPORARY SOLUTIONS his present setting can offer, and although it is obviously torment for you, they may be the best that you, or ANYONE, can do for him.
Contact “the other hospital” and ask for THEIR requirements for transferring him there, AND ask if THEY can suggest specialists in dealing with Geriatric psychiatric behavioral management.
Try (this is VERY hard, I know) to keep your focus on getting the best help you can find, rather than the injustice of what’s happening right now. The current restraints MAY be for keeping HIM safe, as well as protecting the caregivers who are dealing with him.
TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF! Your welfare is IMPORTANT. Try to get some rest, a good meal, and a few moments of comfort and distraction EVERY DAY.
I will check this direction as well. And thank you for all your advice. Among too many things to deal with, I need to keep my focus on how to get out of this situation.
Have you talked to a Neurologist?
Many medications that would typically be given to a patient with dementia that is being aggressive can NOT be given to a person with LBD
If you are not getting anywhere with your requests I would contact :
The Hospital has to have a Patient Advocate that you can talk to.
Talk to another Neurologist better yet if there is a Neuropsychologist consult with him or her.
One of the "problems" you might have in moving him to a Memory Care facility is the aggression. Most facilities will want a patient/resident to be non violent for a period of time typically 60 to 90 days.
I left that case and didn't go back into home health care until a few years later. I don't know if she would have benefited from any type of medication regimen since she was only being seen by a regular physician who I gathered was not knowledgeable about the treatment of people with dementia.
A psych hospital would be your best choice where they can get your husband on the correct medication cocktail for his treatment to calm the aggression. You may have to get an Ombusman in your area to work on your behalf.
I had one time he was physically aggressive towards me. He grabbed me and pulled my hair and told me he will break every piece of my bone. This never happened before. All I could do was to run out of the house without my phone. Since then, my phone is always nearby and available. But your experience is telling us the correct treatment can still save everyone including him and the surrounding people.
I just don't know how I can make this unprofessional hospitalist to be able to professionally explain another hospital (psych) the needs of transfer so they accept him. The hospital denied his request because he didnt even give them a diagnosis nor the medical needs of transfer. Should I request to change him to someone else only for the purpose to make my husband transferred properly?
And Elder Law attorney is one option for getting someone who can advocate for your husband.
I am so amazed everyone respond this quick.
He is in a general hospital with no specialist on site.
Psych hospital may be an option but I am so scared to send him there when they don't know anything but just a regular psych patients. Dementia patients react different to the medication thannother regular patients with psychosis. They almost prescribed him Haldol, which can kill him if they are not careful enough.
He has been seen with remote psych doctors who are not always specialized with treating dementia patients.
Yes. He cannot go to memory care with this aggression but my wish is the doctor who knows what he is dealing will find a right cocktail so he gets calm enough.... then he can move on to memory unit.
At this moment, this hospital cannot even transfer him to the right hospital because of the lack of knowledge what they are dealing with and they can't even explain the needs to the other.
So very sorry this is going on for you.
Where is this?
What kind of facility is this?
What is happening may well be against the law.
You of course need to speak not with a Forum of strangers now, but with the medical team caring for hubby.
I am so very sorry.
And looking for all the options. I am even thinking of hiring a lawyer for his right.
I don't want to disclose too much because many people in this hospital is already hostile with me. And I don't want anything happen to him.
Memory care will not deal with a person like him, he needs meds to calm him down, at this point nothing else will help him.
If he is not in a psychiatric hospital that is where he needs to be.
Do you hold his DPOA?
A MC will not except your husband while he is aggressive. They have to consider other residents. MC is justva step up from AL. They may have more aides and more knowledge about Dementia and how it works, but they are not equipped to handle an aggressive resident.
the noise, different smells and constant interruptions to name a few, Poor guy