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I bet the administration would take pics, too!
If you are wanting our reassurance that this cannot "go wrong" we can't give that. It "may" go wrong. But even if it does, you will have tried something you truly want to do.
An overnight is different than lunch out, but if you feel your husband can do this without sad repercussions, it is your right to try it. I do not think I myself would do so. This is where you are now, you and your husband. You are in a different place. You have good memories and I can clearly see a lot of love.
So, basically, up to you and what you think would be best. I would discuss with those who run his facility and get their insight here.
I would not choose to do this due to the confusion it may bring on.
As AlvaDeer said…you know your husband better than anyone else. It is ultimately your decision.
one option could be to take him out to your favorite restaurant during a time that the restaurant is not really busy and crowded, as the noise and distractions could produce some anxiety. You want the outing to be pleasant for your husband.
He’s in MC because he was probably too much for you to handle alone. Remember what that was like? You’d be setting yourself up for a special day gone BAD.
Congratulations on your anniversary!
The most you should do is a special lunch and drive . Bring him back before evening and sundowning begins .
Your intentions are really sweet, but it’s likely going to mess him up. Dementia patients— especially in MC— tend to not do well when they are taken out of their routines.
If you do it, talk with staff and do it for a short period in the morning. Don’t wear him out and get him back by say 3 p.m.
One important stable for a person with advanced dementia is:
1. Familiar surroundings
2. People (staff, you) even if they forget
3. The constant is extremely important to keep the person as calm as possible - to avoid unnecessary overwhelm, confusion, fear, stress.
"Bring the party" celebration to him.
That he 'does fine' when you take him out for an occasional lunch / drive surprises me although I certainly wouldn't push it with an overnight trip.
My heart goes out to you.
Read / call Teepa Snow. She is one of the country's leading experts on dementia. You can take on-line webinars, watch her You Tubes, buy her books.
Gena / Touch Matters