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Years ago, my first husband had a sudden change in personality. I called his neurologist and explained what I was seeing.
The neuro called my then husband, asked him to come in (without mentioning my call) and changed up his meds, doc made up some story about the med having newly reported side effects.
Get in touch with the doctor soon.
In your discusion mention:
- he himself knows he had a brain injury and was told the risks to his health and cognition.
- him having a check-up not only respects himself but respects you and makes your future together as good as it can be.
- you do not agree to carry on as either his wife or caregiver if he chooses to live in denial because you fear his worsening temper and uncooperativeness, which will make any future marriage and caregiving a living hell for you.
- to move forward as his wife and caregiver he agrees to see the doctor right away, agrees to make you his DPoA (if you aren't already) and agrees to carry through with any and all therapies and treatments recommended.
And then you must carry through with your decision, i.e. you will leave if he doesn't agree to the above. I honestly don't know how else to motivate someone in this situation. If he has an episode of explosive temper you can and should call 911. At that point they'll probably take him to the ER and maybe there he can be assessed. You have the option of telling the discharge office that he is an "unsafe discharge" due to his worsening temper and resistance to treatment.
The caregiving arrangement isn't working if it only works for one of the two people. I wish you success in getting him to the doctor, and peace in your heart no matter what transpires.
I pray that those smart people who are fighting our pandemic will use their skills to eliminate Dementia and perhaps create a vaccine that will save the generations to come: it's a humanitarian crisis.
Just let your husband know that you want the assessment so that you don't suffer from anxiety and, you cannot possibly help him if you don't know what is going on and how to manage it. It is an incurable disease, so it will take a village to manage it, this forum is our village, but we also need medical and legal advisors. Let your husband know, it's a team effort and you are on your husband's team, just like those wedding vows were written.
You must get ahead of this. He may can try some medications that will help his memory and he probably will need an anti-depressent for the mood swings.
In the meantime, don't bring up your fears of him having dementia b/c he may go ballistic on you. In case he does, call 911 and have him taken to the ER for a psych evaluation, which is probably the best idea ANYWAY. If he raises a hand to you, do not hesitate to call 911. If you do get him to agree to go to the doctor, see about sending him a message beforehand expressing your concerns and mention DHs explosive temper and your fears of dementia.
Wishing you the best of luck with a difficult situation. I hope you stay safe and call 911 if and when you feel in danger.
My Mom had lost most of her hearing due to age related decline, and was still sharp in her early 90's. The fact that she had difficulty in hearing made others think she had dementia.
Let's not forget, some people just have "selective hearing". My sig-other does. If it isn't sports he is not focused :(