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If he can afford to go golfing every weekend, there must be money in the kitty for you to go to a resort spa, Vegas, a quilting retreat (or whatever hobbies you have). Perhaps a London Show Tour? Or maybe a cruise. You need to get far enough away that you cannot pop back home.
I am sorry, but even offering to cover 12 hours a day 5 days a week is excessive, especially when hubby is not helping and you have 24/7. That is slavery.
All kidding aside, you are not equipped to care for this woman, she needs 24/7 care from professionals.
Sounds like you are totally dependent on your husband to provide an income, have you considered working outside the home to provide yourself with some independence, so he doesn't hold all the power?
I wish you the best, hope that you figure this out before she destroys you, your mental and physical health.
the answers you’ve been given spell out what needs to happen with MIL.
Was she on Medicaid or private pay while in the NH?
If on Medicaid probably not too difficult to get her back in. Call your Area Agency on Aging and ask them to come give her an assessment and help you get her placed in a memory care if possible.
I hear you when you say your husband needs his time off. Of course he does.
So do you. SO DO YOU.
Get help. It’s that simple really. Really it is. Either get her in memory care or get hired help in the home. This will not get better on its own. Make some calls on Friday.
Dont start 2020 with this going on. It’s really not necessary. Let us know how it’s going. Hugs.
Good luck putting your foot down and getting MIL placed in a good Memory Care Assisted Living